‘Let it go’ how????

I have a really strong sense of justice and often struggle to see things in other ways. If I think I’m right about something there’s not much that can change my mind, but I am able to admit when I am wrong (reluctantly). 

I get told to ‘let it go’ a lot, especially on political and controversial topics. Something I’m really passionate about is animal rights and cruelty. I really struggle to let things go in a conversation when not only do I know I’m right, there’s actual evidence and facts to support that it is true. This keeps happening when I’m talking to my family. As it’s something I’m passionate about when it comes up in a conversation I try to educate them and it turns into an argument because I can’t let it go and can’t understand how they can’t see these facts and evidence as true and real? 

I then constantly think about it and get frustrated all over again. I hate it. Once someone has done or said something I don’t agree with it’s all I see in them. I really hate it. 

I feel like I’ve rambled a lot but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to ‘let things go’ if that’s even possible for autistics 

Parents
  • Some are advising you to compromise on your principles- or at least your tone - because others don't like them. 

    To me that's like agreeing just to eat meat twice a week rather than not at all to save a family row. 

    Most people aren't political or radical. Once they've gone past the news headlines, they've had enough. They don't want detail.  If you start to bombard them with facts, their brains get overheated. This 'let it go' to me is code for them saying the subject is too heavy. 

    The world needs people with a social conscience. It shouldn't shame people who have ethics and morals into dampening them down to appease the masses.  It should celebrate these individuals as forward-thinking and revolutionary. 

    I realise people are offering ways that 'could' make life easier and less confrontational, but if you've got that fire of injustice in your soul, then I see it as something to be celebrated. 

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  • Some are advising you to compromise on your principles- or at least your tone - because others don't like them. 

    To me that's like agreeing just to eat meat twice a week rather than not at all to save a family row. 

    Most people aren't political or radical. Once they've gone past the news headlines, they've had enough. They don't want detail.  If you start to bombard them with facts, their brains get overheated. This 'let it go' to me is code for them saying the subject is too heavy. 

    The world needs people with a social conscience. It shouldn't shame people who have ethics and morals into dampening them down to appease the masses.  It should celebrate these individuals as forward-thinking and revolutionary. 

    I realise people are offering ways that 'could' make life easier and less confrontational, but if you've got that fire of injustice in your soul, then I see it as something to be celebrated. 

Children
  • I wonder if any of us oldies have really learned to let it go? If so, then we can say to these principled young people (our younger-selves). I respect your choices. Or will we argue our point of view?

       If you are not  infact younger than me after all, please see the poem at the bottom by Samuel Ullman. Best wishes. Mrs Snooks.

    This is from me:

    If I argue the point, I am giving up remembering:

    When I bought not tested on animal skin-care products.

    When I argued with my cousin about banning nuclear warships in my country (still in place in NZ)

    When I protested along the main road of my city about student fees. 

    When I refused to buy a coat that wasn't ethically sourced.

    "YOUTH" 
    Samuel Ullman

    Youth is not a time of life; it is a state of mind; it is not a matter of rosy cheeks, red lips and supple knees; it is a matter of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions; it is the freshness of the deep springs of life.

    Youth means a temperamental predominance of courage over timidity of the appetite, for adventure over the love of ease. This often exists in a man of sixty more than a boy of twenty. Nobody grows old merely by a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.

    Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. Worry, fear, self-distrust bows the heart and turns the spirit back to dust.

    Whether sixty or sixteen, there is in every human being's heart the lure of wonder, the unfailing child-like appetite of what's next, and the joy of the game of living. In the center of your heart and my heart there is a wireless station; so long as it receives messages of beauty, hope, cheer, courage and power from men and from the infinite, so long are you young.

    When the aerials are down, and your spirit is covered with snows of cynicism and the ice of pessimism, then you are grown old, even at twenty, but as long as your aerials are up, to catch the waves of optimism, there is hope you may die young at eighty.

  • Thank you for this. I know that it’s wrong of me to hold things against people but I find it so hard to let go when Things go against my morals or beliefs that I believe to be rational, especially in this instance when it involes animals.