And who would want that?
Put simply, I suck at life
Well, I'm gonna need all the luck in the world 
it takes more than just keeping clean and well dressed, you need to be good at life, have your *** together etc and I'm terrible at that!
In which ways have you tried looking for a partner? Do you use dating apps?
I think it is very difficult to find a partner in general, but even more for autisic people. I have also always been too weird to attract men, and yes, I would easily encounter men who would be sexually interested in me, but I am in the asexual spectrum and that is not what I was looking for. I was single and celibate for 10 years until I found my current partner, who is also weird like me, and a big geek.
Everybody has qualities that someone will like, including you. The problem is that to find that somebody, you have to do a lot of searching. It's like trying to find the pair to a sock in a huge bucket of laundry full of socks.
My advice is that you get to know yourself well, and also, make a list of qualities you look for in a partner, and what kind of relationship you are seeking. Then download several apps (Bumble and hinge are quite good) and make a profile with your pictures and a description of yourself and what you like. Then start swiping. It's a bit like applying for a job / searching for an employee. You will have to go to a lot of "interviews" (dates) and there will be a whole lot of disappointment, but remember that you are looking for that one sock in a pile.
Good looks would help but as long as you keep yourself clean and well dressed, you'll be good enough for most women. Remember that contrary to what most men believe, we are not so much interested in good looks as we are in finding someone who treats us well and doesn't expect to be babied.
There is also plenty of information online on how to do dating, there are different ways to do it (some people like gender roles and some others don't) - try them out and find which way you like best. Personally, I follow someone on instagram called "the love drive" and I quite like his style of advice.
It is not easy at all though, dating is very hard and you need to experience a huge amount of rejection and disappointment. But remember that somewhere there is someone for whom you are their dream partner, and they're looking for someone just like you, weirdness and all.
I hope this is of some help. Best of luck x
Don't worry about it. I didn't say those things because I was hurt or to hurt you. Thanks for opening up. I think it would help you to re-read the advice from everyone in here with an open mind and stop situating the problem in your lack of success with women. Romance blossoms when two people are comfortable around each other. That begins with you being comfortable in yourself. Be kind to yourself, do something you're proud of, and practice gratitude. Then look to make friends with common interests and maybe one will become a romance. Good luck.
Well I apologise if I came across as unkind, I never intended to. I'm always kind to people in real life, but it doesn't do my love life any favours, nothing does. I'm just too weird, too much of a geek, and I don't have the looks to compensate for it. I know what you're saying about loving myself, but that is one of the hardest things for me! This long dry spell and lack of interest from women has damaged my confidence and self-esteem severely. I'm sick to death of battling loneliness and self-hate day in day out, sorry, but I'm at the end of my rope!
Hi there. I was single for nearly all of my 20s and into my 30s, I had about 3 or 4 short relationships in that time. But I met someone aged 35 and we've been married for 20 years now so it can happen to anyone!
Firstly, I believe you can't have a serious relationship with anyone until you are happy with yourself. It sounds like a cliche but you must love yourself first. From the little you have posted, it seems maybe you don't. You call yourself "weird" which can be liberating if you say it positively about yourself (I know I'm weird but I love my weirdness and my wife loves it too, sometimes!) but I don't get that message from your posts. If you understand yourself better, who you are and what makes you tick, then you will be more comfortable in your own skin and this will be visible to others. If you don't love yourself, potential partners won't either.
Also, compassion is vital. Being kind and recognising kindness. Your first post in this forum was six words long. You gave us very little to go on, no details about yourself, no history, nothing about what you have tried so far or why you think relationships have failed, what others have said about you and what it made you feel. You gave us nothing, but in return expected helpful advice, which was unkind to us.
Then when Iain politely asked a very reasonable question you snapped back very unkindly. If this is how you speak to people then, well, there's your problem.
I think you need to work on yourself, practice gratitude, be kind and accept help gracefully. Maybe focus on another area of your life instead of relationships for a few months, like fitness or learning a new skill, set a goal and celebrate success.
Only when you love yourself will others feel able to get close to you.
I hope this helps
I guess I'm looking at your situation through my own perspective.
I've been single for more than 20 years. At times this has caused me a lot of heartache. I've given up now. And am living with 'if it happens, it happens'.
But I can see that you're not where I am with it. And I hope that you never will be.
I wish you well.
It takes effort if you are looking at a smaller pool of women who would be accepting of your differences so you need to be actively socialising with this group to meet them - kind of a big ask for most autists.
They won't come looking for you so if you want it you need to make a lot of effort.
Identify where your likely type of woman is likely to be and find ways to be there too - not always practical or easy.
Learn how to have a normalish converstion and make small talk. You are intelligent enough to learn the rules but the hard part is applying them so it takes practice and this will involve some rejections. Sometimes a lot of rejection, but don't let that put you off.
Refine your darker humour to something less likely to offend the majority and bring that into your conversations - this is how you can work out if the person feels right for you.
It does work - I'm living proof of it but the path is hard.
Always be yourself. The right person will come along one day. Someone who likes you for you. Then you can relax.
Trying to be 'normal' all the time is exhausting. It's not good for our mental health, and it cannot be maintained indefinitely without small cracks of our true selves peeping through.
Good luck.
Proud older gold star gay “freak and weirdo” here - I think that we can learn much from the life experiences of drag queens such as on Ru Paul’s Drag Race, who have embraced the “not being “normal” parts of their personality and in the struggle for LGBT rights acceptance and activism, have reclaimed certain words that were once used as and considered as terms of insult and were considered “offensive” and turned the energy of these words around to mean something positive and empowering
The majority of women most definitely aren't into me, because I could count the amount of times they've shown interest in me on one hand. It's most likely because I'm just too kooky. And I tried to be more "normal", but it just made me miserable. And the girls that do like men like me seem very few and far between! Lol
You didn't say - hence the question.
What are the main reasons for rejection from your attempts to attract women? Have any told you directly or are you using your own guesswork on the reasons?
Finding out what the reasons for rejection are will highlight the areas you will need to modify if you want to continue to persue this group.
An alternative approach is to accept your weirdness and try to find girls who like this sort of thing - these are much less common however so you need to find out where they go, what they do and what their interests are to find them.
We can dissect the reasons here if you like and help you formulate a strategy to either become more acceptable to them or search for the much smaller group who may accept you for who you are.
It won't be easy but if it is really what you want then I'm sure the community here will help you with some ideas.
The first part if painful - admitting your failings so far and understanding them.
