Hi there. I was single for nearly all of my 20s and into my 30s, I had about 3 or 4 short relationships in that time. But I met someone aged 35 and we've been married for 20 years now so it can happen to anyone!
Firstly, I believe you can't have a serious relationship with anyone until you are happy with yourself. It sounds like a cliche but you must love yourself first. From the little you have posted, it seems maybe you don't. You call yourself "weird" which can be liberating if you say it positively about yourself (I know I'm weird but I love my weirdness and my wife loves it too, sometimes!) but I don't get that message from your posts. If you understand yourself better, who you are and what makes you tick, then you will be more comfortable in your own skin and this will be visible to others. If you don't love yourself, potential partners won't either.
Also, compassion is vital. Being kind and recognising kindness. Your first post in this forum was six words long. You gave us very little to go on, no details about yourself, no history, nothing about what you have tried so far or why you think relationships have failed, what others have said about you and what it made you feel. You gave us nothing, but in return expected helpful advice, which was unkind to us.
Then when Iain politely asked a very reasonable question you snapped back very unkindly. If this is how you speak to people then, well, there's your problem.
I think you need to work on yourself, practice gratitude, be kind and accept help gracefully. Maybe focus on another area of your life instead of relationships for a few months, like fitness or learning a new skill, set a goal and celebrate success.
Only when you love yourself will others feel able to get close to you.
I hope this helps
Well I apologise if I came across as unkind, I never intended to. I'm always kind to people in real life, but it doesn't do my love life any favours, nothing does. I'm just too weird, too much of a geek, and I don't have the looks to compensate for it. I know what you're saying about loving myself, but that is one of the hardest things for me! This long dry spell and lack of interest from women has damaged my confidence and self-esteem severely. I'm sick to death of battling loneliness and self-hate day in day out, sorry, but I'm at the end of my rope!
Don't worry about it. I didn't say those things because I was hurt or to hurt you. Thanks for opening up. I think it would help you to re-read the advice from everyone in here with an open mind and stop situating the problem in your lack of success with women. Romance blossoms when two people are comfortable around each other. That begins with you being comfortable in yourself. Be kind to yourself, do something you're proud of, and practice gratitude. Then look to make friends with common interests and maybe one will become a romance. Good luck.
Don't worry about it. I didn't say those things because I was hurt or to hurt you. Thanks for opening up. I think it would help you to re-read the advice from everyone in here with an open mind and stop situating the problem in your lack of success with women. Romance blossoms when two people are comfortable around each other. That begins with you being comfortable in yourself. Be kind to yourself, do something you're proud of, and practice gratitude. Then look to make friends with common interests and maybe one will become a romance. Good luck.