You didn't say - hence the question.
What are the main reasons for rejection from your attempts to attract women? Have any told you directly or are you using your own guesswork on the reasons?
Finding out what the reasons for rejection are will highlight the areas you will need to modify if you want to continue to persue this group.
An alternative approach is to accept your weirdness and try to find girls who like this sort of thing - these are much less common however so you need to find out where they go, what they do and what their interests are to find them.
We can dissect the reasons here if you like and help you formulate a strategy to either become more acceptable to them or search for the much smaller group who may accept you for who you are.
It won't be easy but if it is really what you want then I'm sure the community here will help you with some ideas.
The first part if painful - admitting your failings so far and understanding them.
I guess I'm looking at your situation through my own perspective.
I've been single for more than 20 years. At times this has caused me a lot of heartache. I've given up now. And am living with 'if it happens, it happens'.
But I can see that you're not where I am with it. And I hope that you never will be.
I wish you well.
It takes effort if you are looking at a smaller pool of women who would be accepting of your differences so you need to be actively socialising with this group to meet them - kind of a big ask for most autists.
They won't come looking for you so if you want it you need to make a lot of effort.
Identify where your likely type of woman is likely to be and find ways to be there too - not always practical or easy.
Learn how to have a normalish converstion and make small talk. You are intelligent enough to learn the rules but the hard part is applying them so it takes practice and this will involve some rejections. Sometimes a lot of rejection, but don't let that put you off.
Refine your darker humour to something less likely to offend the majority and bring that into your conversations - this is how you can work out if the person feels right for you.
It does work - I'm living proof of it but the path is hard.
It takes effort if you are looking at a smaller pool of women who would be accepting of your differences so you need to be actively socialising with this group to meet them - kind of a big ask for most autists.
They won't come looking for you so if you want it you need to make a lot of effort.
Identify where your likely type of woman is likely to be and find ways to be there too - not always practical or easy.
Learn how to have a normalish converstion and make small talk. You are intelligent enough to learn the rules but the hard part is applying them so it takes practice and this will involve some rejections. Sometimes a lot of rejection, but don't let that put you off.
Refine your darker humour to something less likely to offend the majority and bring that into your conversations - this is how you can work out if the person feels right for you.
It does work - I'm living proof of it but the path is hard.
