I'm too weird to attract women

In which ways have you tried looking for a partner? Do you use dating apps?

I think it is very difficult to find a partner in general, but even more for autisic people. I have also always been too weird to attract men, and yes, I would easily encounter men who would be sexually interested in me, but I am in the asexual spectrum and that is not what I was looking for. I was single and celibate for 10 years until I found my current partner, who is also weird like me, and a big geek.

Everybody has qualities that someone will like, including you. The problem is that to find that somebody, you have to do a lot of searching. It's like trying to find the pair to a sock in a huge bucket of laundry full of socks.

My advice is that you get to know yourself well, and also, make a list of qualities you look for in a partner, and what kind of relationship you are seeking. Then download several apps (Bumble and hinge are quite good) and make a profile with your pictures and a description of yourself and what you like. Then start swiping. It's a bit like applying for a job / searching for an employee. You will have to go to a lot of "interviews" (dates) and there will be a whole lot of disappointment, but remember that you are looking for that one sock in a pile.

Good looks would help but as long as you keep yourself clean and well dressed, you'll be good enough for most women. Remember that contrary to what most men believe, we are not so much interested in good looks as we are in finding someone who treats us well and doesn't expect to be babied.

There is also plenty of information online on how to do dating, there are different ways to do it (some people like gender roles and some others don't) - try them out and find which way you like best. Personally, I follow someone on instagram called "the love drive" and I quite like his style of advice.

It is not easy at all though, dating is very hard and you need to experience a huge amount of rejection and disappointment. But remember that somewhere there is someone for whom you are their dream partner, and they're looking for someone just like you, weirdness and all.

I hope this is of some help. Best of luck x

Well, I'm gonna need all the luck in the world  it takes more than just keeping clean and well dressed, you need to be good at life, have your *** together etc and I'm terrible at that!

Well, I'm gonna need all the luck in the world  it takes more than just keeping clean and well dressed, you need to be good at life, have your *** together etc and I'm terrible at that!