Published on 12, July, 2020
I am married to an ASD man.
I talk about my unmet emotional needs and he doesn't understand when I talk about the lack of connection.
He just talks about whether I am meeting his unmet needs which are just idealistic and not a basic need.
Can anyone help? Am I fighting a losing battle? Is an emotional connection not possible in an ND relationship?
Of course we do.
I hope I'm not alone in finding that question rather patronising.
NAS91496 said:He just talks about whether I am meeting his unmet needs which are just idealistic and not a basic need.
Really?
Maybe listen a bit more closely to what he is saying and try to address his own needs that he believes you may not be meeting.
You seem to be defining his needs for him.
It takes two to tango.
NAS91496 said: Is an emotional connection not possible in an ND relationship?
I can't understand why you might think this - have you thought about the fact that this might be simply relationship based and not related to his autism.
You seem rather over critical of him.