Published on 12, July, 2020
I have always been a "yes man". I always go along with other people to avoid being seen as lazy or not interested. Even if I can't keep those promises for whatever reason and that leads to people being disappointed.
I always struggle to say no, or that an activity or place is difficult for me to get to or if I'm not well enough to stick it out to the end.
I should say that the people I'm talking about are the job centre, social workers, volunteering organisations, etc. Often thanks to my sometimes overbearing parent I'm made to feel like I am in debt to these people.
I get that, people can get really snotty when you say no thankyou, especially when its something they think will be good for you. When people ask me why I don't want to do something, I ask why they want me too? They often come out with a load of rubbish, that I keep turning back at them, until they go away out of frustration, soon they stop asking, then you ahve a period of feeling upset that nobody appears to want you to do stuff anymore, that quickly turns into relief that they're not hassling you.