Published on 12, July, 2020
I have always been a "yes man". I always go along with other people to avoid being seen as lazy or not interested. Even if I can't keep those promises for whatever reason and that leads to people being disappointed.
I always struggle to say no, or that an activity or place is difficult for me to get to or if I'm not well enough to stick it out to the end.
I should say that the people I'm talking about are the job centre, social workers, volunteering organisations, etc. Often thanks to my sometimes overbearing parent I'm made to feel like I am in debt to these people.
You 100% need to start putting yourself first. I can relate to not wanting to disappoint your friends when you have plans etc but if they truly are you friends who care for you they're not going to mind if you cancel when you don't feel up to it.
You're going to end up in a burn out if you keep pushing yourself to do things you don't want to do just to please others. I don't really have any advice on how to start putting yourself first but I hope you manage to.