Is it ok to have preferences?

I am not attracted to the people local to my area, they seem uninteresting.

Yesterday I went to my local supermarket and saw a young lady working there, she was tall, slim with lovely brown hair and, helping an elderly customer, spoke with an accent that was perhaps American or Canadian, I don't know.

I also like the idols I see in music videos and entertainment videos they feature in showing their talent, personality and unique looks.

Once in a while I spot a girl wearing a pretty outfit that catches my eye.

To me they are a breath of fresh air compared to the local people who I find not interesting and run of the mill, no offence intended.

Regarding the title I often prefer women with black or brown hair and brown eyes with a slim or average build not covered in tattoos like most people in my town.  I value personality most of all.

Sorry for rambling I am battling heartburn right now and can't sleep.

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  • You can't change who you are attracted to. It's just biological. So that's fine. It doesn't mean those are bad people just because you don't find them attractive.

    Preferences where you do feel physical attraction but decide for some reason you've invented that they're not worthy is a bit different though. But yeah in general preferences are fine, everyone has them, even if they seem arbitrary. I prefer some eye colours and hair colours as well and I have no idea why, it just looks better to me.

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  • You can't change who you are attracted to. It's just biological. So that's fine. It doesn't mean those are bad people just because you don't find them attractive.

    Preferences where you do feel physical attraction but decide for some reason you've invented that they're not worthy is a bit different though. But yeah in general preferences are fine, everyone has them, even if they seem arbitrary. I prefer some eye colours and hair colours as well and I have no idea why, it just looks better to me.

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