Find certain sounds annoying!

Thank you. 

Thanks and one back at yah!

Sending you a hug. 

The child over the hedge has the most ear spitting scream that she does several times an hour, I can't be out in the garden when she's out playing and she's out a lot, as it practically sends me into a low earth orbit.

"our current disposition often changes how sensory inputs are perceived." Omg this is me. There's stuff that I can tolerate sometimes, or even successfully ignore at times, but if I'm tired, or stressed or depressed then it's like a nail being hammered in my head.

There are loads of sounds I find annoying, but I can't use head phones or ear pods so I just have to grit my teeth and suffer.

Haha true!

I mean... You could....  But good on you. ️

Thank you very much for replying. I do have noise cancelling AirPods so I will try using them more.

My family are definitely ready to support me, it’s just they too think they should be allowed to eat which I completely agree with and don’t want them to stop- it’s the sound on certain days I want to stop.

Sending you a hug, it sounds as though you’ve done your best.  

Sending you a hug, thanks for sharing.  

Thank you very much, I do have noise cancelling AirPods, but you’re right- they’re not ideal. I will take a look at the link, thanks! 

Thank you very much, I will take a look at the link. 

Thank you very much for the ideas, I will try saying ‘hey, I’m going to listen to some music now’. I can’t really stop someone from eating though, it would be unfair of me. 

JuniperFromGallifrey please are you able to send me a PM request, I would like to ask you something. PS I didn't realise you had replied on my earlier posts last week asking this. The forum was playing up and I missed it.

A book I'm reading talks about how our current disposition often changes how sensory inputs are perceived. This explains why the same inputs can be sometimes tolerable and sometimes unbearable.

I think a good start is to have grace for yourself. Just because you could tolerate it before does not make the current discomfort or pain any less. Later, after things calm down for you, it could be fine again. It's ok that it bothers you.

If your family is open to hearing, I think sharing your experience like you have here is a good way to express to them what you are going through. Since my recent discovery of being autistic, I've realized how poorly I've managed raising my boys and have hindered them instead of helping them grow. I can only assume that all parents want to know what is best for their children, and if they don't know then they can't help.

For me, I personally have purchased sound cancelling headphones and it's very nice. I did not realize how much sound I was putting up with, not just on a daily basis but every second! You could be surprised to find that there are other factors at play: other sounds, smells, lights, etc., stimuli that are being processed and causing this seemingly simple situation to become overwhelming.

I hope that your parents are open to discussion and helping.

I hate sound of tearing and crumping paper, coffee machine, washing dishes especially the crash of cutlery and plates, vacuum cleaner, adhesive tape and generally high pitch, explosive, sudden noises, repetitive sounds, alarms etc. the list could go on. I also often find my daughter’s toys unbearable. And her scream is the worst. I use earplugs. It took my husband quite much time to understand and accept that the sounds are unbearable, often feel like pain or some sort of shock like electric shock - her scream for example. Also her Duplo blocks. I know exactly when it’s too much for me and I just instinctively leave the room. If I miss it it may lead to me having some sort of panic attack. Not pleasant at all. I also use them at work, in public transport, in a busy street. Everywhere I need. In Shops sometimes too. 

The repetitive and irregular sound of hammers and drills .

These frequencies will go right through ear buds. I'd suggest attenuated ear plugs, which filter out painful transients and still allow one to converse with everyone around. 

"This is for my sanity and your enjoyment of my company - everyone wins". 

Try Loop, Flair, Etymotic (what I use) or any found on sites for musicians https://www.gear4music.com/PA/Accessories/ear-protection.html 

I feel with you, here. Sometimes called Misphonia, but sound sensitivity can be related to many things. However, due to it being specific, it's probably just having less an ability to dull our senses. 

Are your parents reasonable? Are you able to tell them that you need to be able to block out some sounds, and that you are not being rude and that it will help you not 'make a scene'.

All you describe is really normal. Your parents could be educated on this, I hope.

I just randomly found this on Google, but you could do a search yourself and ask your parents to read it. Do it at a time when everyone's tempers are good and no one is wound up:

https://www.abtaba.com/blog/autism-and-sound-sensitivity

I ask people politely to put their phones on silent if they get a million message notifications a minute. I've turned down washing machine beeps on other people's machines without telling them (not advised!)

Could you put them in before? Or just say hey guys I want to listen to some music so I'm gonna put my ear buds in.

I am the same with sounds. Sometimes I can tolerate them, but other times (if I am stressed or tired, etc) they make me want to rip my ears off or cry or swear really loudly). 

Before, I would just push through and deal with the fallout later; now I will communicate my needs directly. For example if I am in the car and there is a conversation going on and also music playing, AND I am finding it difficult in that moment to process everything, I will ask if we can turn the music off or at least down. Most of the time people are happy to oblige.