Are there any unwealthy autistic persons here?

When I read this - I experienced it as shockingly alienating. 

(The opposite of inclusive, more like judgemental).

I was genuinely surprised.

If ND's were not able to be encompassing of each other - that would be a sorry state of affairs.

All is well. this discussion feels like an earnest plea to understand by someone who is struggling to find their place and how to define it. Let's help them.

I've always felt forums wise, not just here, that I'm on the outside of the inner circle looking in on it. That I'm not liked or wanted as others are.  Also there's the feeling of alienation  that stems from a lack of shared experiences. I have no doubt that much of this extreme anxiety/insecurity/ non bizarre paranoia stems from the bullying related trauma I struggle with.

I've always felt forums wise, not just here, that I'm on the outside of the inner circle looking in on it. That I'm not liked or wanted as others are.  Also there's the feeling of alienation  that stems from a lack of shared experiences. I have no doubt that much of this extreme anxiety/insecurity/ non bizarre paranoia stems from the bullying related trauma I struggle with.

I've always felt like that too - and in groups in real life too - and I also experienced some bullying when I was young.

I think that you have identified a difference between yourself and some of the other people on this forum (in terms of family background /wealth) and have used that as a reason for why you feel you don't fit in. That's not the reason - you don't feel like you fit in because you're autistic, and most of us don't get the feeling of belonging in a group that neurotypical people get. Just look at how many of us on here have "imposter syndrome".

But being autistic is about being unique, and we have to learn to appreciate that in ourselves as well as others. But we will have some shared experiences and fears, and we can share and support each other here.