Published on 12, July, 2020
I’m not quite sure how to word this, but does anyone else find it hard to have calm discussions with others due to seeing things as more black and white? I often feel really strongly about particular things and ignore the grey area and just get really defensive when someone seems to say anything slightly different to my own opinion. It takes me a while to understand and acknowledge different perspectives. After I’ve taken the (long) time to do so I can clearly see where they’re coming from and will maybe change my own view slightly as well, but it doesn’t necessarily get better the next time the topic comes up and I still react too strongly.
I know exactly how you feel. The trick is to not overreact but to do a double take and try try to see the argument from the other person's point of view.
The fact that you acknowledge that you have this problem is a big step forward. Some people I know see almost everything black and white and their views are set in concrete.
I agree. The double take is more of a slowing down the processing time, and not giving into knee jerk reactivity. If its a sensitive issue, you cant have a tantrum and blow up and act foolish. Nt's pounce on this stuff. They also like to gang up, if you show yourself to be...'different' or sensitive.