Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all
So I'm 44 and I have zero friends! I have a few aquitances but nobody I would call a friend.
I'm really troubled by this, I have a partner and children but I feel this lack of friends very profoundly
My partner has friends and I often get hurt feelings when they go out, it's not that I don't want them to do it's just a reminder and a painful one that I don't have that in my life, I literally feel sick every time they do
I feel it physically and mentally, it really weighs on me.
I don't know what to do about it, I have tried joining various groups but I always feel out of place and unwanted
I'm sick of no one calling me and being alone and isolated (my partner and me don't stay together) , I'm sick of never being invited to anything, I just want someone out with my partner to give a damm.
It's really affecting my mental health and I don't know what to do.
Thanks
I am the same. Not a single friend. Have a partner and children. But totally and utterly isolated. This is a good place to start to realise that you aren’t on your own. I am in the process still of trying to connect. Just say ‘hi’ and you will be amazed at how many people on here will say ‘hi’ back.
Unfortunately it's not enough, the online stuff just isn't real enough of an experience and still leaves me feeling like hell.
Does it not affect you much?
Yes it affects me every single day. I have tried so many times over the years. I am now trying to build up the courage to look for ‘clubs’ or ‘get togethers’ (if they exist) that have something to do with my special interests. I can talk about these, so I am hoping it might help if there is a purpose to a group of people meeting. That probably doesn’t make any sense