Published on 12, July, 2020
i have bad antisocial neighbours the worst they have done is have a knife in the close, but they have thrown heavy things from the top floor window and lots of shouting and they deal drugs and are scary.
The knife thing was supposed be going through court there is video footage, but it keeps getting delayed.
The community police want me to bring my antisocial diary as they think my housing are not doing enough about this, but they said to come to their office - there office is in an industrial estate. I cant get there, I have never been there before, a taxi is too much money and I would get in a panic. I did not want to say that I am autistic as I mask well and come across neurotypical. But the whole building which I can see on the google is not the type of building I do well in. Its too big and in a rough area. I prefer the little village police station that I can get to easily on bus.
How do I cancel the appointment? it is just too uncomfortable for me, and I will end up lost in a panic in a quiet unsafe industrial estate, I think they forget some people dont drive. No buses there either.
Thank you all for your kind advice. I have cancelled the appointment. you see because of the neighbours behaviour the police are up in the building a lot, often they will force the neighbours door down, and arrest him then after a few days he is back out again, he has a court appearances a lot, one of which i am to be a witness too. But often he is released and has a tag round his foot instead of going to jail. It has been a nightmare. The police had been nice and try their best, but the current laws etc mean that their best efforts are squashed by the guy being free to do the acts again. He has a drug gang in and out of the building lots, and I am left often unable to go out of my own flat for a simple walk. I am so tired, as I have been to the police in the village, and the police have visited me often for footage as I have a door bell camera, sometimes the police want to see footage in the middle of the night, and wake me up, I try my best to help the police by letting them in to see the footage as they need to know if they are in their flat before forcing entry for example. Its got to the stage where I feel like giving up and letting the other neighbours complain instead. I cant take all this on my shoulders any more. One police person joked to me once saying that it is as if I work for the police. i need my sleep and I get so frightened at the door being knocked at night . I trust the police and have did my best to help. But nothing is happening the man has not been moved on by the housing. I think that maybe he must be related to someone in the housing. One week the police must have been up almost every day and sometimes at night, that is how bad it is here. The guy and his friends shout, they have harassed me i have a disabled sign on my door and the woman has shouted "freak" at my camera doorbell, calling me a freak. I have always managed to avoid them and our paths have never crossed despite them always being in the close, as I avoid going out when they are loitering in the close. I am tyring desprately to get a home elswhere, I cant do private rent too expensive and private do not let me make the changes I need for my disability. So I am pretty much stuck. The man on the ground floor was so terrified he inhertied money so he was able to move after years of bullying from the couple. and the lady who used to live below me was also terriified she passed away, I think she would have lived longer had she not been bullied by the couple. This is all happening in a nice pocket of the city, this is supposed to be a good area. The private flats in the area are sought after, and it is in a beautiful area, since the couple moved in though it has impacted the whole street.
Would be possible to have a private meeting with the fellow residents? The ones who are experiencing the same issue? Then after a while, give the evidence to the landlord. Do you have any support? E.g a social worker?
This works as at training college a tutor was bullying everyone (her dad was unwell); three of us who were students decided to have a private meeting in a fellow student accommodation room. Was very useful. Now the college is a retirement village with antisocial behaviour (there's a footpath to the retirement village without any security);
Current neighbours don't understand security as back gate is always open and windows during the day.
In 2015 had a nervous breakdown and ended up mediation which helps.
Hang on in there.
I sympathise with how exhausting this ongoing situation must be for you.
Although I can understand why you feel like you've had enough of complaining to the police and local authority about your nuisance neighbours, I would urge you not to give up. Try to hang in there, at least until the court stuff is out of the way and you know what the outcome is.
I wish you well.