Published on 12, July, 2020
In friendships in the past, I used to believe that if I was not someone's favourite person (or one of their favourites), I was unimportant to them. Or that I could be easily replaced.
I realise now that that feeling was probably a sign that it wasn't going to work out, and I didn't communicate things as clearly.
I wondered if anyone else has felt this.
Sounds like a self esteem issue. Especially the fact about wanting to be the favourite person. That says to me that you feel you need attention from others and need to feel valued more than others. This is all self esteem related, you are wanting other people to make you feel special because you don’t feel special in yourself. You need to love yourself and the rest will come to you. I used to feel the same by the way. I used to feel I needed others approval and permission to feel happy.
You're correct that it's a self esteem issue. I'm not as bad with it as I used to be, but occasionally it creeps in. That belief that I'm not good enough.