Published on 12, July, 2020
I by chance unexpectedly about two and a half months ago met this absolutely beautiful man - he is a man not without his quirks but if anything I find those endearing and quite cute to be honest. We instantly had a vibe and appeared to like each other, constant eye contact, smiles and finding excuses to be in one another's presence and,or text msg's - he even unnecessarily called me one day, which I totally loved that hearing his voice during my work day, I was on a natural heigh the rest of the day (good lord listen to me I sound like a bloody teenager lol).
Please Note: I apologies upfront for all of the writing that is coming (thus I will try to do some dot point too) summarisation has never been my strong suit sadly lol...
There are a lots of bits and pieces and even though it;s only been like 10-11 weeks a lot has happened but for now I'll keep it brief - I believe that this gorgeous man may have Aspergers, Autism and be on the spectrum but is extremely high functioning or, or he may just be so extremely intelligent that the things I have noticed are just quirks I am not sure. Also if he is on the spectrum I am unsure if diagnosed but doesn't accept or didn't want to tell me or that he hasn't been diagnosed.
I am neurotypical however I am beyond understanding, caring, compassionate and honestly if he is on the spectrum and he would of been upfront with me it would of saved some missed opportunities of beautiful conversations and experiences AND would of prevented me from getting very unforcedly out of the blue unexpected hurt by him. I have a 19+ year caring, nursing and NDIS/NDA background and I am just a passionate caring person in general so am extremely equipped to deal with this if told the truth and given the opportunity and my own choice to do so.
I am sending out this post for help (those on the spectrum and those who are in relationships with or been in long term relationship etc);
To a) see if my thoughts that he is on the spectrum are possibly correct
b) if so what other traits that I have missed besides what already notice should I look out for
c) things were beautiful for weeks and things happened that were so wonderful but now he did things and said complete opposite and we have now lost communication but I wish to open up the communication back but without being to over whelming if my thoughts are right that he is on the spectrum and I need help.
That’s great glad you found this man. You will be happy about that then. Autistic people are very nice and stuff. I am a nice man too. I asked a girl out a few days ago but sadly she already had a man. But she said that if she wasn’t already take she would have went out with me so that’s cool.
Well it was great and I felt like (and our house mates could even see it) we made each other very happy, I know just being around him just being in the same place as him makes me happy but now things have sadly been distorted and I'm not sure how/if they can be fixed and I don't even know why they changed, what happened that his mind changed but yeh - I am still glad that I found him too but i am getting mature in age now and need to think about some time limits in regards to future things and he may have a lot going on and not able to have a relationship right now but does that mean he's wanting me to wait? or that was he's way of saying know without having to be Truley honest or what I do not know BUT please please don't let my troubled experience put you off putting yourself out there - keep trying to meet people because everyone deserves to have someone to love and be loved - it's worth te struggle if your mental health can take it. Good luck in your search.