Published on 12, July, 2020
I by chance unexpectedly about two and a half months ago met this absolutely beautiful man - he is a man not without his quirks but if anything I find those endearing and quite cute to be honest. We instantly had a vibe and appeared to like each other, constant eye contact, smiles and finding excuses to be in one another's presence and,or text msg's - he even unnecessarily called me one day, which I totally loved that hearing his voice during my work day, I was on a natural heigh the rest of the day (good lord listen to me I sound like a bloody teenager lol).
Please Note: I apologies upfront for all of the writing that is coming (thus I will try to do some dot point too) summarisation has never been my strong suit sadly lol...
There are a lots of bits and pieces and even though it;s only been like 10-11 weeks a lot has happened but for now I'll keep it brief - I believe that this gorgeous man may have Aspergers, Autism and be on the spectrum but is extremely high functioning or, or he may just be so extremely intelligent that the things I have noticed are just quirks I am not sure. Also if he is on the spectrum I am unsure if diagnosed but doesn't accept or didn't want to tell me or that he hasn't been diagnosed.
I am neurotypical however I am beyond understanding, caring, compassionate and honestly if he is on the spectrum and he would of been upfront with me it would of saved some missed opportunities of beautiful conversations and experiences AND would of prevented me from getting very unforcedly out of the blue unexpected hurt by him. I have a 19+ year caring, nursing and NDIS/NDA background and I am just a passionate caring person in general so am extremely equipped to deal with this if told the truth and given the opportunity and my own choice to do so.
I am sending out this post for help (those on the spectrum and those who are in relationships with or been in long term relationship etc);
To a) see if my thoughts that he is on the spectrum are possibly correct
b) if so what other traits that I have missed besides what already notice should I look out for
c) things were beautiful for weeks and things happened that were so wonderful but now he did things and said complete opposite and we have now lost communication but I wish to open up the communication back but without being to over whelming if my thoughts are right that he is on the spectrum and I need help.
You seem quick to look for pigeon holes to put this fellow in when your only gripe was that you were happy.
Or. You can explain the nature of this "hurt" you say he inflicted?
What precipitated the event beforehand? What part did you play?
There's a lot of missing data that makes the one side of the story your giving us far from a best seller.
Hello Uhane - well this is the thing, I honestly and truly have no idea! Like I said previously I have been second guessing myself and sleepless nights worrying what it is I could of done wrong. I don't understand what happened or changed in the two days between the date and meeting his family to when I told him exactly how I felt about him and he replied hours later with 'not interested in a relationship at the moment' - I don't know what has happened, I don't know what I did or even if it is anything I have done or if it's something to do with his daughter, his ex and custody things I know he not long got through a long battle with that BUT he didn't say way or explain why he would take me and do all that which clearly is intent for a relationship but then has changed his mind - something must have happened in those two days what I have no idea and he hasn't said why nor has he spoken about it since. If I knew I would say - I'm not at all trying to paint him as a bad guy or anything like that, I know he has a lot going on but I think an explanation and some truth to why was something I deserved to know as meeting the family 'oh so big' and meant a lot to me and it seemed like it did to him too so I am hurt because he bought me into his world like full on in and now i'm left thinking what the hell did I do wrong just matter of fact completely different words to his actions and no explanation, it's painful and mentally draining... However if he would just communicate with me whats wrong ... I know it doesn't tell you much and that is because myself I don't know to tell you. - I don't know or understand what happened in those 48 hours??!