Shared work load

Why does it seem that women do the majority of the work in relationships? It seems that we do the childcare, the housework, the emotional work of keeping everyone happy-ish, be the appointments and social secretary's, the shoppers and cooks and have full time jobs? It's not just me that thinks this, many studies show the same thing. I've met so many women who feel that they don't have a partner, but an extra child, this often lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

Its starting to make me think that all hetrosexual relationships are inherently abusive, I can't speak for same sex ones as I've never had one.

I know I'm going to get flak for this post, but I'm going for it anyway. I'd love to hear from people who have successfull relationships and what they're secrets are, not that I want another relationship, I'm just curious.

Parents
  • My husband has always done his share of the chores. I know I'm lucky in that, as many women I've known do much more than their male partners.

    Not sure if it's because my partner is ND? Or maybe he's just very rare?

  • As a lifelong singleton I have to do everything. If by some miracle I met someone I can’t imagine I would just let go of it all.

    Perhaps the issue is whether people have lived alone for a spell or gone straight from their mother to their spouse?

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  • As a lifelong singleton I have to do everything. If by some miracle I met someone I can’t imagine I would just let go of it all.

    Perhaps the issue is whether people have lived alone for a spell or gone straight from their mother to their spouse?

Children
  • I think if we made broad generalising comments about other groups there are many people on here who would take issue with it, and that should apply to men too. There are loads of us and we are all different.

  • In my experience, men who've lived alone for a while are perfectly capable of doing things like laundry and hoovering, they just stop when a woman moves in, they go from being capable adults to manchildren. Then they wonder why you're to tired for sex?