Published on 12, July, 2020
Is it just me or have any of you also noticed that other autistic people can be quite stuck up and unfriendly. I don’t if it’s only me that has the awareness to notice this but yeh every autistic person I have met it’s like they think they are better than the rest of us and that they are above everyone. I don’t get why they are like this it kind of bugs me. I met an autistic guy one time and all he did was tell me negative stories about his life and I had only known him 5 mins. He goes ‘school I was bullied’ ‘girlfriend left me’, never going to date women again etc. I don’t get why everything has to be so negative when I talk to fellow autistic folks. They never have anything nice or good to say at least when I speak to them it’s always ‘nothing ever happens for me’, ‘everything is everyone else’s fault’ etc. This kind of attitude stinks and no one wants to be around someone that thinks like that. This isn’t an attack on autistic people after all I am autistic too and have been guilty of doing the very thing I am criticising. I have moaned and complained and chose to focus on the negative too in the past. I am just curious if anyone knows why this is the case? Why do I not fit in amongst autistic people? I much prefer being around happy people. But to this day I have never met a happy autistic person. It’s always the same old negativity and depressing thoughts and low self esteem that makes you not want to be around them sadly. I just want these autistic people I meet to cheer up and enjoy the world and I feel so much sympathy for them and want them to feel happiness like everyone else. I wish with all my heart that I could help these people. Because it makes me so sad to see all these depressed autistic people who are in so much pain and anguish. They don’t deserve it! Everyone deserves to find happiness in life. I never met an autistic person who was enjoying their life it’s so unfair! These autistic people never asked to be born with this disability. These autistic people are missing out on life and it makes me so sad! It’s like autistic people are in they’re own little world where they just watch the world pass them by and aren’t really aware of what they’re missing out on. At least that’s how it feels to me. I was in my own little world separate from everyone else now I am more connected to my fellow man. I see now what I couldn’t see before.
Yellow tree 118 said:Is it just me or have any of you also noticed that other autistic people can be quite stuck up and unfriendly.
This is most likely because they lack social skills - sometimes in the extreme - which can make them seem this way.
Yellow tree 118 said:every autistic person I have met it’s like they think they are better than the rest of us and that they are above everyone.
They will probably talk about their special interest areas the most or the areas in life they have made most progress in - these are areas where they possibly are much more informed, educated and capable than the majority of people so their confidence may come across as arrogance if you don't factor in their poor social skills.
Yellow tree 118 said:Why do I not fit in amongst autistic people?
With autism being a spectrum condition you may have some traits to different degrees of severity. It sounds like you have quite neurotypical social skills which is why you have so much trouble understanding other autists who don't have these.
This disconnect is what most autists find with almost everyone else - even other autists so it is understandable why so many of us shy away from social interactions.
I would recommend reading up on this autistic trait to educate yourself on their experience and it should help you have a but more understanding of their struggles and hopefully help you empathise more.