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What actually works for you when it comes to burning off anger?

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I haven't found anything that works for me. I find that it's actually getting worse for me, not better.

The closest thing is a distraction but it's only temporary relief. Same with throwing something. Sometimes I just want to shout but again, that's probably just temporary.

Years of my parents making me feel bad for ever merely feeling sad about anything doesn't help. 

  • in reply to A=BCD

    I like to swim and run also singing my favorite song and dancing too

  • Intervals (jog a bit, sprint a bit) to Rage Against the Machine.

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  • in reply to Roy

    Thank you Roy and Debbie, it's lovely to see you as always. I'm glad to be back.

  • in reply to A=BCD

    Hi, really nice to see you back. 

  • A couple of things work for me. Sitting with my cat and venting to her is one thing I do and it works every time, she just sits and listens and it helps me come back down to earth. 

    Exercise is amazing for releasing anger. Also helps with mood elevation. I go for walks and being surrounded by nature and seeing the beautiful scenery around me always makes me feel better. 

    Swimming was another favourite for me. Being in the water always helped calm me down.

    Turn on my CD player....play some upbeat feel good tunes to boost my mood again and drop those anger levels. 

  • What actually works for you when it comes to burning off anger?

    Calm rationalisation and processing of my thoughts.......plus loud VENTING, into space, when no one can listen.

    Simple, but I find it effective.  Anger imposes the worst personal toll on one's cardiac health, according to my understanding of very current research.

  • in reply to Caelus

    although not that im a good example of that...

    infact though i actually think theres a good side to the anger anyway, in that you are more motivated... i feel it makes me more physical and a better physical labourer.... i likely dumped and lost alot of my anger after a bit of a mental crash and reset at work reviously and likely let go of a few things and got a bit calmer and less caring which makes me less angry, but in turn it likely made me... lazier... less physical at work... the anger made me a better more active physical worker. when you let go of it your just left with less motivation for physicality and a lazier slower less caring state. the angry state is more active, physical and overly caring about everything.

  • i think some form of awareness of why you get mad is likely important... for me i likely overthink things, play scenerios and bad stuff in my head over in different scenerios, get mad thoughts in my head, likely paranoid thoughts of bad things others may think of me, play out negative scenerios.... all this bad stuff in head leads to a building anger. a awareness of this and when you start doing it can make you say no and change your mind into a different direction possibly. this likely is... i forgot what they call it.... some.. .wait ill google it mid typing lol .... mindfullness maybe?

  • in reply to I Sperg

    Digging the garden, going for a good stomp with my dog, making bread, anger makes good bread. I dont' have a particular problem shouting, sometimes music helps.

  • I'd exercise until I'm mentally and physically drained. Or if I can't exercise, I'll just write everything down just to put the anger down somewhere, so that it's not all in my head. Sometimes lack of sleep, too much noise, or extreme heat and discomfort, can make a person more irritable than usual, and sometimes just being in the wrong kind of environment can cause additional stress too, so try to avoid places and situations that may cause you any undo stress.

  • 1. Cannabis. HUGELY useful in reducing my tendancy to get annoyed.

    2. Controlling myself and my situation to avoid obvious stressors.

    3. Unexpectedly just saying NO quietly, and walking away.

    4. Sleep.Curling up with a cat.

    5. Doing something useful/helpful/nice for someone else.

    6. Occasionally someone steps up and helps me with whatever is frustrating me.

    Anger management has been a bit of a thing for me in the past....

    *edit* (for completeness) 7. Occasionally delivering a heavy enough blow to sort the matter out... Gotta really pick your occasion and time, and not be led by the anger to make that one work.