Published on 12, July, 2020
So cut me some slack because what I'm about to say is likely to annoy some people but it's not an accusation against any one as such. But don't you get tired with the threads here. 60% seems to be parents going 'my child X please help.' Even if you restrict yourself the autistic adults forum so much of it is so trivial and boring every day. I've started clasifing the difrent classes of boring threads I'm reading, they are so predictable.
Threads I miss seeing and that seem to be getting rarer:
I'm not saying everything has to be like a oxbridge debating sociaty but it would be nice if we could have a few more meaty discussions around here. I'm surely not the only one who feels that way?
This place is intended as a safe haven for vulnerable people, not a place for controversy. It's impossible to have a "meaty" discussion if the mods censor anything that risks upsetting somebody.
Ah but in the process do you not make it unsafe place for people with controversial opinions?
is it a place where you are safe to speak your mind or a place where you are safe from opinions that might upset your sensitive soul? there are many different kinds of safety and I know for myself I prefer the safety of knowing I can have a fair hearing and speak my mind without having my head bitten off before I’ve even made my point.
I’ve spent time on various internet forums over the years and far too much time on Twitter. You can discuss any topic as robustly as you like there (and generally if people just can’t get along they can mute or block so they don’t bother each other).
But this site is, by definition, for people who are looking for help and support because they *need* help and support. We have to at least try to be sensitive to other people, who are already having a very difficult time before they even come here. They don’t need more stress from this site.
I still feel that knowing what YOU mean by them, in your own words- know thyself - will clear things up and force you to see a more specific set of values you are trying to express with your words.. "look it up." does not clarify. It's sullies.
I think the difference is that an AS person would be far more susceptible to clinging to, doubling down on, and getting hopelessly fixated on the exhilaration of controversy. It can become a pernicious form of special interest. I grew up with such zealots, (the more toxic side of the John Birch Society anyone?).
ATs are just as subject to feeding off drama and controversy too, but they are far more mercurial about it, Editing (unless they out right forget) what they felt about a subject as it flits past their focal plane. But - drama queens all round - Plenty room for everyone. Energy Vampires.
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There are those among us who get just as worked up over home made christmas ornaments, to everyone's delight, harming no ones sense of well being, indeed enhancing it. Special interests R us!
Here's what we all have to ask ourselves every time we post here: Is this going to have a positive effect on other's sense of well being? Simple as that.
AS, know thyself beyond the confines of AT adopted narratives.
They cannot reflect the authentic you! Find your original face!
There is no one holding your leash!
I mean you can assume I’m using the dictionary definition in this case.