Published on 12, July, 2020
Someone asked for my opinion on something they had made and I said I have no feelings towards it, they said that I'm being upsetting and my mom said that I should lie from time to time and stop being honest.
I'm just really confused; why would you ask something but not want the truth and only expect a socially acceptable answer that you already know what would be? Is this a fun game of lies for them that I'm not getting? Or them asking for my opinion is actually: 'Tell me something good and make me feel better about myself' in a hidden way? Personally, I don't get much out of compliments; if I'm not feeling good about something, people's opinions can never change that, sure I think it's nice of them to share their thoughts on something they like about me, but now that I've learnt that people think compliments can be lies, that also doesn't make any sense anymore, does it?
If it was me I would want to hear the truth- otherwise how can I ever trust what you tell me? If i know you are willing to tell me when you don’t like something then I know that when you do say positive things you mean it. Otherwise it is all meaningless. But for some reason neurotypical people don’t seem to see it this way
Yes exactly my thoughts, very well said.