Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
I am always overthinking in relationships as recently, I broke up with my ex a while ago and we have reminded friends until recently, they have always known about my Autism & OCD tendencies and have been rather supportive of them & not bothered by them which is a good thing. But recently they told me how they felt and something didn't sit right with me, did they feel that way because I was autistic, I always truly felt that I was strange or something, always talking myself down. But then they told me some stuff and it brought it up all back up.
It's like I think, can I find someone who I could have a relationship with? Without showing my tendencies or anything like that.
I would love to hear some feedback on how you cope in relationships, I have always struggled but I struggle with my emotions and explaining them.
Hey Erwin firstly let me start by saying if you feel you need to 'hide' who you really are in a relationship then you need to sit and think about why that is first. A relationship where you are not truly yourself means that your never going be able to relax and it'll eventually make you going to burnout and for the other person it's going to eventually feel like a betrayal on their end when they find out because they got to know, and potentially fell in love with someone who wasn't actually who they thought they were but a disguise. I'm also wondering if you felt like you needed to hide and felt strange around your ex because they didn't truly like or want to accept who you actually are...that's not a relationship that's a status/ manipulation thing on their end! HUGE RED FLAG
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