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Erwin

Hello, 

I am always overthinking in relationships as recently, I broke up with my ex a while ago and we have reminded friends until recently, they have always known about my Autism & OCD tendencies and have been rather supportive of them & not bothered by them which is a good thing. But recently they told me how they felt and something didn't sit right with me, did they feel that way because I was autistic, I always truly felt that I was strange or something, always talking myself down. But then they told me some stuff and it brought it up all back up.

It's like I think, can I find someone who I could have a relationship with? Without showing my tendencies or anything like that. 

I would love to hear some feedback on how you cope in relationships, I have always struggled but I struggle with my emotions and explaining them. 

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  • in reply to I Sperg

    Reminder of Rule 7:

    This is a hate-free zone for autistic people, their families and friends, and professionals working in the field. We do not permit sexism, homophobia, racism, anti-Semitism, religious intolerance, transphobia, disability hate speech, hate speech, obscenities or pornography to be posted or linked to here.

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  • in reply to Rosie Mod

    I'm well aware of Rule 7 and I am genuinely mystified as to how a clearly humourous and non-serious suggestion that "gaffa tape and cloroform" could be a route to obtaining a relationship violates that rule. 

    Let's take a look and try and work it out, shall we? 

    1. Sexism? We are given no information as to the original posters sex or relationship requirements. So it can't be sexism.

    2.Homophobia racism ntisemitism reliious intolerance transphobia, all of those we can exclude on the same grounds.

    3. Disabilty hate speech? not really... 

    4 Hate speech? Who is the object of hatred here? (There's a hypothetical victim of a hypothetical crime, but all the adults in the room know that there is not real proposal of a crime here). Of course there is an implicit hatred of humour being expressed here...

    5. Obscenities? Well that's pretty much in the eye of the beholder is it not? MOST of modern society is a string of obscenities for some individuals, and a glorious rainbow pageant of self actualisation for others. GIven that the music track atatched below is in the public domain and widely broadcast I think the post  managed to stay on the right side of that legally speaking.

    6. Pornogaphy? Nope.

    So how exactly did I break that rule? Where is the hatred inerent in that post?