Published on 12, July, 2020
My Autistic son ,works, started uni through work and drives,but like so many kids today spends all his spare time alone on his pc in his room.He has no friends and he is in denial ,he asked to be retested then changed his mind,we believe to prevent him from hearing again that he has Autism. He is now 20 and it is harder than ever to talk to him as he just grunts his answer back and have to ask him to repeat it which, again frustrates him.When listening to him play his pc his clarity in speech is frightening and so I ask the question "is it just myself and my wife" we got him to join a club where other Autistic people meet and he hated that and never went back.if only he would embrace his autism I think he would be a much happier boy,if there any advice out there I would appreciate anything and Thanks in advance.possible specialist that could maybe make him understand about himself. Sorry for rambling on ,just a worried and concerned Dad grasping for any positives
Thank you once again
You could be describing me at that age. I'm a older now but from the ages of 14-18 I inhabited my computer and played games online all night and that was my only social contact. And to my mother and father I barely communicated (just grunts and yes/no) and I would get very angry when disturbed because I was so involved in what I was doing. I feel terrible about it now, I was not a nice person to be around as a teenage boy.
I was the same for most of my early 20s but I had been kicked out and banished from returning home. For me the only time I felt normal and like I belonged and could relate to people was when playing online games and talking to people online, maybe it's like that for your son. I don't think you can convert him or cure him into being a different person who behaves how you want.
What always did work for me was clearly defined routines and timings, like dinner at certain times, so I could plan around it. If I had made my own plans and they were interrupted then it was hell.
Wow ,you could be my son.Thank you so much as what you have said has given us a great deal of hope,other people have mentioned that he might be going through his teenage years and continue to do so until well into his 20s but what I have learned and mostly through the advice and experience from the people on this forum is patience, not to expect him to change quickly and if he never does be there for him ,As I always will.i seem to be saying the next part quite a bit lately. Thank you so much for A ,the advice and B,replying and trying to help