Published on 12, July, 2020
During my early twenties, I did an assertiveness training course. Part of the course focused on the way we communicate with other people and the choice of words we use.
Since becoming a member of this Community, I have observed that when members have a difference of opinion and discussions get heated, they will sometimes state their personal opinions as though they are facts.
For example, let's imagine that I consider someone to be a truly despicable person, and I say, "You are a vile person!" It comes across as though I am stating a fact. Therefore, if the person it is being said to gets defensive and responds negatively, one can hardly blame them.
However, if I say, "I think you are a vile person!", then it makes it clear that I am merely expressing MY opinion of that person. By using the words, "I think" at the beginning of that statement, I am owning that statement and accepting responsibility for it.
Does this make sense?
It does make sense. Words can be interpreted by different people in different ways, especially written down - you've lost tone, body language, all of that. They can also be taken out of context. Agree with owning your words/statements/opinions.As for facts, what I took away from Uni was there don't appear to be any facts, just degrees of statistical certainty or probability. I wanted to understand how the world works and I realised that no-one really knows.