Published on 12, July, 2020
Just back from my work’s Christmas night out. Feeling very deflated. Watching everyone dancing and having fun, I felt like an alien or a ghost. Totally uninvolved with what was going on. And now I probably won’t speak to another human except a supermarket worker until January
Life shouldn’t be this way. I deserve better.
I feel thankful that I have never had to experience a work's Christmas night out, or even a work's Christmas lunch. I remember my dad (an NT) attending a fair few, more out of a sense of obligation than a genuine desire to go. He often used to say, "I may work with those people, but it doesn't mean I want to socialise with them outside of work!"
Rather than dwelling on how the Christmas night out caused you to feel, maybe focus on the fact that you're home and can now put it behind you. Feel proud of yourself for attending, even if it was a Hellish experience.
Your dads comment is exactly how I felt about work socialising. I remember starting a job and telling someone,” I come here to earn money, not to make friends, if that happens along the way then fine but I don’t seek friendship.”
I was only being honest, I can see it now as doing the work is fine, complicate it with people, it’s then too much.
Roy said:” I come here to earn money, not to make friends, if that happens along the way then fine but I don’t seek friendshi
Same for me. Too bad that having a career is 90% connections and brown nosing, 7% seniority and 3% technical skills