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Traditional / Old Fashioned Thinking

GPK26
10 months ago

As an older person with Autism, I was brought up in very different times with different thinking, values, acceptance, behaviour, etc (1970's & 80's).

The World has changed so much since then - both for better and worse.
There have been so many advancements - particularly in science and this has benefitted us ASD'ers immensely.

One thing that is troubling me is that I hold a lot of "principles" that in this day and age would be considered "Old Fashioned", "Traditional", maybe even "Bigotry" or worse.
There are things that I struggle to understand or accept which are based on my traditional attitude. I was brought up in an era when....

  • Boys had girlfriends and girls has boyfriends
  • You were born a boy and died a man
  • Men married women
  • Humour was not censored
  • People weren't "cancelled"

I openly discuss or rant about these topics along with some others that may be considered taboo with closed friends and family who have all become somewhat numb to my outrageousness / inappropriateness.

I have however managed to "behave" in public (stayed on the right side of the law), but occasionally do mutter things with a level of cowardice.
My concern is that now that I am officially autistic, the shackles of having to mask may have been broken and that has the potential of me saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.

Parents
  • 10 months ago

    Im not sure if this conversation is homophobic but just incase it is, rule 7 in the community rules says "This is a hate-free zone for autistic people, their families and friends, and professionals working in the field. We do not permit sexism, homophobia, racism, anti-Semitism, religious intolerance, transphobia, disability hate speech, hate speech, obscenities or pornography to be posted or linked to here. " Again im not sure if this discussion is homophobic but I thought id just make sure everyone knew about this rule

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  • 10 months ago

    Im not sure if this conversation is homophobic but just incase it is, rule 7 in the community rules says "This is a hate-free zone for autistic people, their families and friends, and professionals working in the field. We do not permit sexism, homophobia, racism, anti-Semitism, religious intolerance, transphobia, disability hate speech, hate speech, obscenities or pornography to be posted or linked to here. " Again im not sure if this discussion is homophobic but I thought id just make sure everyone knew about this rule

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  • 10 months ago in reply to Deleted user

    On the subject of rules, may I bring rules 4 & 5 to your attention

    Content must not be graphic, obscene, defamatory or libellous. It must not encourage, promote or glorify any forms of self-harm of self- neglect. Please do not use the forum to identify other individuals, whether in passing or when making complaints. Please use alternative websites or resources if you wish to make a complaint about an individual or third party service.    

    Be nice to one another and enjoy chatting with others. We encourage conversation and respectful debate; please be aware that individuals may give opinions which are not shared by other members. Insulting posts or comments making personal jibes will not be tolerated.   

    There are numerous response to my OP which could be deemed / proven to be in contravention to the above rules. Hopefully the mods / community manager will be along soon to sort this out one way or another.

  • 10 months ago in reply to Deleted user

    I think some of the remarks made on here are homophobic and racist, which is concerning me greatly especially as autism is being used for the reason why.