Published on 12, July, 2020
Because of a few things that have happened recently, I thought these points might be useful to some:
1. If you want to be friends with someone and send and receive PMs, other than the friendship request you need to have your settings on accepting PMs from 'friends only' or 'everyone'.
There is someone on my friends list who I recently accepted, who either doesn't have their settings correct, or doesn't want messages, or there is a technical problem, as I can't message them back.
2. When you 1st send the request and it includes a message you have written, the only way for the recipient to see that full message is if you have notifications, and then you may/should be able to read it there.
In my case unfortunately, it's in another email address which I set up when my own one became inaccessible due to a NAS technical problem.
3. If you find that you don't want PMs from someone you are receiving them from, as I understand it, you can either change your settings to 'no one' or have 'friends only' set but then remove them as a friend.
I am assuming this works but haven't had cause to do so.
Addendum: it doesn't work unfortunately
See Former Members post.
Screenshot of the settings below:
I'm just bumping this back up as it's still relevant.
The crux is: be careful who you accept as a friend, as if you receive unwanted PMs, even if you then remove them as a friend, they will still be able to PM you.
It would be good if the new platform changed that, so that if you removed somebody as a friend, they couldn't message you. Obviously as it is, the system is open to potential problems.
I have found this knowledge useful, and haven't always accepted friend requests as a consequence - as the contact you're making seems irreversible at the moment.