Published on 12, July, 2020
Because of a few things that have happened recently, I thought these points might be useful to some:
1. If you want to be friends with someone and send and receive PMs, other than the friendship request you need to have your settings on accepting PMs from 'friends only' or 'everyone'.
There is someone on my friends list who I recently accepted, who either doesn't have their settings correct, or doesn't want messages, or there is a technical problem, as I can't message them back.
2. When you 1st send the request and it includes a message you have written, the only way for the recipient to see that full message is if you have notifications, and then you may/should be able to read it there.
In my case unfortunately, it's in another email address which I set up when my own one became inaccessible due to a NAS technical problem.
3. If you find that you don't want PMs from someone you are receiving them from, as I understand it, you can either change your settings to 'no one' or have 'friends only' set but then remove them as a friend.
I am assuming this works but haven't had cause to do so.
Addendum: it doesn't work unfortunately
See Former Members post.
Screenshot of the settings below:
Agree with the removal of friends/following.
It would be good if the new platform changed that, so that if you removed somebody as a friend, they couldn't message you. Obviously as it is, the system is open to potential problems.
I have found this knowledge useful, and haven't always accepted friend requests as a consequence - as the contact you're making seems irreversible at the moment.
I'm just bumping this back up as it's still relevant.
The crux is: be careful who you accept as a friend, as if you receive unwanted PMs, even if you then remove them as a friend, they will still be able to PM you.
Just bumping this as a reminder: be careful who you accept friend request from as even if you then remove them, they will still be able to PM you.
I get muddled up with and miss notifications too.
Fetohep said:I am not getting any notifications at all. So don't know if people are trying to add me as friends.
Yes sadly notifications are up the creek without a paddle as is a lot of the functionality of this site and it's getting worse
I am not getting any notifications at all. So don't know if people are trying to add me as friends. People might think I am ignoring them. I am not. Sorry. I am also not ready for PM's just yet, one day though.
Edit: This is a reply because it is tangentially related to the PMing systems not working properly on this site.
Oh dear
So sorry for you.
So much doesn't get or can't be sorted, unfortunately.
I have my PMs set to just receiving them from friends and it does work, thankfully.
You can re-join easily, by-the-way, and then the new ID might give you proper functionality (or pigs might fly).
Yes but it's never worked. I cleared my cache and tried a new browser but it still doesn't work.
Have you got your settings set to receiving PMs?
The friendships system is very buggy on here. My PM's don't work at all.
Just thought I'd bump this back up as I am receiving friend requests and am unable, as always, to read the message contained therein.
This appears to be a general and permanent forum fault.
Also, I personally don't get notifications, so apologies if I ever miss a reply on a thread.
Also, notifications weren't working a while ago for those who are meant to receive them.
I don't know if that particular forum fault is mended yet.
This is nothing to do with me and my friends, by-the-way.
Yes, I've experienced this today ( Barmy army ).
Bump (:
*Bump* :)
I don't have any friends to PM unfortunately.
*sad violin music playing*
But thanks for explaining this. Much appreciated.
This just an update really but the people being able to send messages after you have removed them as a friend isn't something that should be happening and the community manager has passed it on the IT department. So fingers crossed this is fixed soon!
It's a good idea to do this
Otherwise it's confusing for new people ^^
This also surprised me too! I'm expecially surprised that you can't prevent somebody from messaging you after they have started. If there is a way to petition for change to protect female presenting people on here then I think it could be worth it otherwise I can see a lot of females leaving as we are being left wide open to harassment.