Published on 12, July, 2020
Because of a few things that have happened recently, I thought these points might be useful to some:
1. If you want to be friends with someone and send and receive PMs, other than the friendship request you need to have your settings on accepting PMs from 'friends only' or 'everyone'.
There is someone on my friends list who I recently accepted, who either doesn't have their settings correct, or doesn't want messages, or there is a technical problem, as I can't message them back.
2. When you 1st send the request and it includes a message you have written, the only way for the recipient to see that full message is if you have notifications, and then you may/should be able to read it there.
In my case unfortunately, it's in another email address which I set up when my own one became inaccessible due to a NAS technical problem.
3. If you find that you don't want PMs from someone you are receiving them from, as I understand it, you can either change your settings to 'no one' or have 'friends only' set but then remove them as a friend.
I am assuming this works but haven't had cause to do so.
Addendum: it doesn't work unfortunately
See Former Members post.
Screenshot of the settings below:
So, I found out earlier today that unfriending a person doesn't remove their ability to continue to message you. I have spent a number of hours scouring the website and there doesn't appear to be a clear means of stopping someone from messaging you after you have accepted their friend request and started up a conversation.
As a female on this platform I find this somewhat alarming as it leaves us vulnerable adults open to all sorts with no real way of looking after ourselves without deleting our accounts.
I have reached out to the community manager and I'm hoping they will be able to assist me. I leave this comment here merely to let others know and to urge you all to seriously think about who you are accepting as a friend on here.
This just an update really but the people being able to send messages after you have removed them as a friend isn't something that should be happening and the community manager has passed it on the IT department. So fingers crossed this is fixed soon!