Published on 12, July, 2020
Because of a few things that have happened recently, I thought these points might be useful to some:
1. If you want to be friends with someone and send and receive PMs, other than the friendship request you need to have your settings on accepting PMs from 'friends only' or 'everyone'.
There is someone on my friends list who I recently accepted, who either doesn't have their settings correct, or doesn't want messages, or there is a technical problem, as I can't message them back.
2. When you 1st send the request and it includes a message you have written, the only way for the recipient to see that full message is if you have notifications, and then you may/should be able to read it there.
In my case unfortunately, it's in another email address which I set up when my own one became inaccessible due to a NAS technical problem.
3. If you find that you don't want PMs from someone you are receiving them from, as I understand it, you can either change your settings to 'no one' or have 'friends only' set but then remove them as a friend.
I am assuming this works but haven't had cause to do so.
Addendum: it doesn't work unfortunately
See Former Members post.
Screenshot of the settings below:
So, I found out earlier today that unfriending a person doesn't remove their ability to continue to message you. I have spent a number of hours scouring the website and there doesn't appear to be a clear means of stopping someone from messaging you after you have accepted their friend request and started up a conversation.
As a female on this platform I find this somewhat alarming as it leaves us vulnerable adults open to all sorts with no real way of looking after ourselves without deleting our accounts.
I have reached out to the community manager and I'm hoping they will be able to assist me. I leave this comment here merely to let others know and to urge you all to seriously think about who you are accepting as a friend on here.
You might be able to use a site bug to do it. I have had messages people send to my old username in the DM list not reach me because I changed my username. If it works like I think it does then you don't have to change your username all that much after unfriending a person you could just add a - or . at the end of it.
Oh, that is really good to know. Thank you so much!
I'm willing to give it a go and see if it does work, at least until I hear from the community manager and see what they say about it all. I appreciate your honesty.
Yeah tho tbh I don't know if that just happens to me, I think you'd have to get someone willing to friend, DM, unfriend DM, and then add friend again to see if it works for you.With me I didn't even unfriend anyone or vice versa, just the slight change in username cut the connection between the DM history meaning the new message sent to the old name and didn't show up on my end. But ofc still being friends with that user and I have my DMs open anyway there wasn't anything to stop them from sending a new one to my new name via my profile as if it was a first time message again. I think had my DMs been closed to them for whatever reason they wouldn't have been able to send me another "1st" message again tho.But the bug definitely severed the ability for them to send me another message on the end of the old pre-existing message string in the DM notification page itself.