Socialising with other autistic adults

That makes sense. 

I shall be getting a dog at some stage next year hopefully. A golden retriever all being well. I love animals 

All my autistic social interaction is done online on this site. I don't know any other autistic people in my life. The girls at my office are all neurotypicals, they are nice and mostly understanding but I don't talk like I do here.

I have one friend remaining - the others have died - she is neurodivergent, and I strongly suspect the others were, also. My sibling is autistic, and some of his children. That's the social part of my life, such as it is...

I talk to neurodivergent people every day when I'm at work. 

In some ways, I have been more isolated than I am now, still, I spend most of my time alone, other than my faithful hound

It's such a weird place to be, isn't it?

I completely get that as I'm the same with my anxiety but I really want it to change. 

I've had friends but it usually always ends and I wind up hurting which has dented my trust in humans on the whole. 

That happened with my fiance and I. We both thought we were neurotypical when we first met and now we have discovered that I'm autistic and he has ADHD. 

Thank you. I'll definitely keep this in mind as I start trying to be more social again.

Thank you for your honest response I really appreciate it. 

That's a nice thought!

I'm in the same boat. Not Nerdy enough, but not Normal enough.

Generally I don't do a lot of socialising, my anxiety disorder tends to put a stop to it if the idea enters my head.

Really all my contact with people is with my family.

I've never had any friends. Each time I tried to talk to anybody at school I was filled with crippling anxiety. Maybe one day it will be a different story.

I live in hope.

None. Funny, I'm very late diagnosed. But so many of my friends from my youth also are now self identified or diagnosed.

I think we have a knack of finding eachother

Are there any pros to trying to socialise and get to know more autistic people? Any cons? 

I help teenagers with some of the real world skills they need when leaving school and have to say they can be tough to work with - they (we?) sometimes have really weird social interactions, hair trigger anger/fear issues, can be very hard to find an environment they feel comfortable in and their attention span is typically terrible.

It is way more hard work than most neurotypicals in my experience.

The pros are quite variable and really depend on the overlap of your traits on whether there is enough shared interest to overcome your individual issues.

I would say the chances are about even of finding a compatible friend in an NT or ND group

For a while my circle was all neurodivergent folk (mainly autistic). It was a lot easier than people I knew in the past, although a lot of the stress that came with it was self inflicted. 

I guess the cons are the chances of a clash. You might both be autistic but you'll have different needs and communication styles. The clash has often been more rough than with a neurotypical person.

I'm the same as you, very much limited in terms of talking to people on a friendly level for 6 months (literally only spoken to a few people a few times. I'm trying to sort myself out before I try it again.

When I was diagnosed, a few months ago, I asked the psychologist a similar question, as I am very alone in the world.

She said “you just haven’t found your people, now you can”.