Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there,
I am 31, I have a demanding job, a 7 y o son, a husband. I am not diagnosed with autism but at this point I feel there is not one person I ever met who understands my struggles. I feel like an alien and I guess need to know are there aliens like me. And if there are, did you figure it out? I don't even know if I am in the right place but can anyone relate to this:
What I am struggling most with:
What others tell how they experience me (these thighs have been said repeatedly by different people) and I do not understand why.
Things I have under control and I learned to do even though I don’t feel like doing them but I know they are important:
I just need to know that it gets better because I am at 100% capacity trying my best and still failing.
Liza
The answer is, if you are autistic you will never become not autistic. However, self-knowledge is empowering. Knowing that you are autistic, even if you are not formally diagnosed, opens up a wealth of advice and fellow-feeling from other autistic people. You are no longer alone, there are many fellow travellers out there, who have had the same or similar experiences and traits as you. Once you can see things from an autistic viewpoint, work arounds for social situations and other problems are available. When you are no longer trying to live up to unrealistic neurotypical standards, life can become somewhat less stressful.
That is it in a nutshell.
Perfectly summed up.
Isn't it just!
Nice one Martin.
Ben