Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there,
I am 31, I have a demanding job, a 7 y o son, a husband. I am not diagnosed with autism but at this point I feel there is not one person I ever met who understands my struggles. I feel like an alien and I guess need to know are there aliens like me. And if there are, did you figure it out? I don't even know if I am in the right place but can anyone relate to this:
What I am struggling most with:
What others tell how they experience me (these thighs have been said repeatedly by different people) and I do not understand why.
Things I have under control and I learned to do even though I don’t feel like doing them but I know they are important:
I just need to know that it gets better because I am at 100% capacity trying my best and still failing.
Liza
NAS89256 said:I feel like an alien and I guess need to know are there aliens like me. And if there are, did you figure it out?
Yes, a lot of what you say rings bells.
There is something known as a 'Triad of Impairments' with regard to autism so reading through this is a good start.
'Language and communication: difficulties in recognising and understanding verbal and non-verbal language, such as gestures, facial expressions and tone of voice.
Social Emotion: difficulties with recognising and understanding other people's feelings and managing their own.
Sensory Perception: Many autistic people experience some form of sensory sensitivity (hyper) or under-sensitivity (hypo). There are 7 senses - auditory, visual, touch, taste, smell, proprioception and vestibular.'
https://autismhampshire.org.uk/about-autism/what-is-autism
As I understand it, this is the basis of diagnosis.
I'd also suggest you do an autism test.
Here's a thread about the RAADS-R:
https://community.autism.org.uk/f/adults-on-the-autistic-spectrum/28699/raads-r-diagnostic-scale/313134#313134
This test formed part of my NHS (via a private company) diagnosis.
Thank you. I tried filling in the test but does anyone else find the questions and answers very confusing?
like there is no accurate answer from the couple of options they give so I get stuck at every question.
and then the questions are also like how good are you at this, how good are you at that but I so often think I am good at smth and then the reality for other people turned out to be totally different