Published on 12, July, 2020
I dunno I always feel people forget about they’re loved ones after like 5 years or so but with me I remember every pet who passed away, every loved one that passed away. for instance the ones that hit me the most to this day is my pet dog Bruce who died 7 years ago and I won’t ever forget the last glimpse I saw of his face. Another one which hurts me talking about is my Nan who died an awful death and she died 11 years in October. Sometimes when I fall asleep I see them both together and I wake up totally upset and I know it sounds cringe but I sometimes hug the photo frame of my dog Bruce.
I'm sorry for your losses. I don't think you necessarily have to stop grieving, nor do I think it's ever something you have to get over. I'm sure people still get upset when they think of people close to them who passed 20, 30 years ago.
I lost all of my friends earlier this year. They didn't die but I screwed up and threw away all the support I had. I think that counts as grief because it is a loss, and 4 months on I still don't feel ready to even consider just getting over it and 'moving on', regardless of the well-meaning advice that I've had.
It's best to do it at your own pace, anyhow.