Published on 12, July, 2020
I am so depressed and fed up with my life. I’m 23 and never been in a relationship with a girl. I took everyone’s advice about going to groups and meeting people it doesn’t work. I think god has a vendetta against me. I don’t think it’s fair that everyone else gets to have relationships and I don’t. This medication isn’t working that I’m on it’s like taking smarties they don’t do anything. I’m going to keep complaining to the doctor because I’m still not satisfied. This is how sad and pathetic my life has become the human race really hasn’t come far. Maybe one day we’ll live in a world we’re everyone gets treated fairly.
Hi- medication doesn’t fix things, it can make things more bearable or give someone the energy to change things. Going to groups etc is probably just not your way of socialising. And you might just not have met the right people yet. I personally tend to avoid group social situations- i like one on one and especially like going on walks with people. If you like cycling that could be a nice thing to do more of - on your own or with others. i agree that there are a lot of horrible and sad things in the world but sadly a lot of those we just have no control over. I still haven’t managed to do this, but it would be good to try and focus on the things we do have control over.
Yeh all I can do is go to groups and meet people and if something happens it happens. If not then so be it. Maybe I’m not ready just now anyway, as I’m a bit all over the place with my mental health and I really need to speak to a therapist and work through my trauma. I think having a girl or a guy in my life would just not last long if I was so emotionally upset all the time. I need to try and recover first then maybe girls will naturally be attracted to me. To be fair I get a lot of looks from girls in the street so I do have some awareness that I am hot stuff. Just wish I could meet the ideal lady. But where I live a lot of the girls are into drugs and stuff like that and I don’t want to date someone that uses substances if you get what I mean. Some guys would go out with anyone but not me. I have a level of wiseness for my age that is uncommon in most young men from what I understand.
I think you have it - wisdom indeed. Anyone meeting you while you are not emotionally stable will not see the true you.
Speaking as a woman, I dislike men that "hit" on me, feeling that they are only after one thing. The ones I like best are those I know firstly as friends, those where we share respect and trust and that takes time. Not to put you down for having good looks, but for me character is more important.
The wider your circle of friends and acquaintances, the greater the likelihood of meeting someone, directly or as the friend of a friend.