Published on 12, July, 2020
I have a friend that I met online who has ASD. We are in different geographic locations (me = USA, him = UK), but we were messaging each other throughout the day, almost every day for the past 6 or 7 months. I know he has been stressed with his job and other people in his immediate world, lately. He warned me that he was considering deactivating his social media for a while because it was stressing him out, and said that he didn't want me to panic. It has been almost 4 weeks, so far, that he has been gone. I have no other way to communicate with him. I am very worried, as I want to be sure that he is ok. I, of course feel unclear about whether he wants to talk to me anymore, also. Could this be due to a "shutdown" or "burnout" on his part? From other things I read, that seems to make sense. I guess I just need some advice on what to DO. I know I should be patient, and I'm not mad at him or anything. I just want to understand what's happening and I need some guidance on how I can manage myself until/if he returns. Any insight would help at this point. Thank you in advance.
In as far as insight, it’s just a fact that the virtual and real don’t mix, when someone decides to shut the laptop-lid the virtual ceases. From the audience-perspective it can be a curse, that you never get to see beyond the veil, but that is also the blessing of the virtual-world. It’s beyond your control if you have no other connection but through that window, but it is a blessing for you too in a way, because the best conversations are the ones left unfinished. You’ve not done anything wrong, so try to interact with the qualities of your existing live, try to accept invitations from your remaining-circles to return to normal.. I hope this helps..
Thanks. Trying to keep myself busy in other ways is exactly what I'm doing. Just hard not to wonder/worry about how he's doing. Thanks again for your response. I appreciate it.
Yeah you can get that way handling calls, you never have the luxury of knowing how things turn out, you got to make the most of the time you have..