Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey! I am actually going for an assessment here in the US in a few weeks but I am gathering info. I am a 40 y/o woman and I ended up here because my kids are both done with school and I decided to attempt making a friend group for myself. I didn't seem to able to so I started researching how and ended up here.
It is both nice and sad to see myself explained. Sad only because my family could have been more accepting and loving of things when I was young.
Anyway, I still want friends lol
Irl people are going to want an official diagnosis if I am going to bring it up so I'll have to wait. I do have one question. Does it help to let people now you're autistic or does that make things harder? I feel like it would make it easier to explain some things about myself and maybe being able to connect better. Then I thought it might just make people avoid ne from the start.
Advice?
Hi there :) The only reason I wanted a formal diagnosis was so I could have this sort of 'short hand' with people (eg. family, employers, etc) to say "Oh I have autism" and them to say "Okay cool". You know? Rather than for us both to dance around the fact that I am just a bit weird and quirky and sometimes (often) say the wrong things. So I think it is valid if you want to get a diagnosis for that reason. You get to choose who you disclose that to.
Thank you! That's what I was thinking. Some if the things that people don't seem to like about the way I talk are things I can easily explain but right now no one really seems to get it. I thought the diagnosis might help. Looking more into this and the couple online tests I took has already helped me personally feel a little better about myself.