Published on 12, July, 2020
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I see. For me it's sensory. I would try to tolerate it in the past and get overwhelmed and shutdown. I do the bare minimum at the moment but I do volunteer twice a week and that gives me enough contact to stop the loneliness being unbearable.
I'm working through a book of DBT skills for neurodivergent people at the moment because I'm terrified of getting to a bad place again. I wonder if that would help you - it's about identifying your autistic profile and strengths and how it impacts your life, then building skills to manage using mindfulness, distress tolerance and emotional regulation. How do you find therapy? Does your therapist come up with strategies you can try? I've read on here previously that people have worked through this book with their therapist.
Age (30's), hiding my autism, no groups or schemes for adults with Asperger's and having never met other neurodiverse people in my life.
Also my interests are largely solitary and not easy to share with others
(shows and games from the 1990's, using the Linux operating system and music I find on Spotify and YouTube.)
I wondered about that. I looked at Hiki last year but there was only one user within a 50 mile radius near me. That's a shame.
The other friendship apps that I saw that looked tolerable for me were frindow and friender.
What do you think the obstacles to socialising are for you?
There's also the directory on here. Don't know if you've seen it. You can search by your postcode to see what's available. Have you heard of Hiki app?
Have you looked if there's anything in your county council that supports autistic people? For example in my county there are groups for autistic people and they also organise and provide transport for days out. It sounds like you need some support to get out and change your routine.
What supports do you have, Abstract?
Hi Abstract. I know how you feel.
I don't have many friends and I leave the house quite rarely. I also sleep a lot - I just am more tired than most people, I guess? Or maybe it's escapism?
I think we're all in the same place and you can feel safe here.
Can you set up little things to look forward to? Maybe a little trip, even locally to the cinema or for a nice meal?
I found out the importance of quality, over quantity, of friendships.
Classic song by Morrissey that!
I'm the same mate. You are not alone in feeling this way. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are probably doing better than you realise.
I can't decide if your post reminds me of the theme tune to 'Why don't you' or the song 'Everyday is like Sunday'. Sleeping, hobbies and work aren't bad though!