Published on 12, July, 2020
because of the arguments, why not hibernate?
I have done this before.
You can change your name to 'hibernating'.
It's good psychologically because it stops me from posting and indicates to others that you are having a break.
Also, you can choose to still PM (which I do) which isolates you less.
Roy has chosen to do this yesterday.
I've been told by one person that someone they knew was thinking of joining but didn't because of the disagreements, others post far less, others join and then stay a short while.
I was sad to read Billy87 s post today.
To the new people here: it's not always like this and only certain subjects are incendiary so if you can manage to avoid reading them, that would help.
I am guilty of having joined into arguments because I also feel passionately about certain subjects and I expect I will occasionally still make my point.
However, I think restraint here is the key and personal insults should never be acceptable.
I dearly hope that this thread doesn't go the same way as my 'arguments' thread and become one almightly row ...
Peter said:we need these conflicts these arguments because they are the vaccine against extremism and snowflake oversensitivity.
No Peter
'We' should be capable of respecting the boundaries and vulnerabilities of other members of the forum and remembering that not everyone thrives on conflict.
For some of us, conflict is a trigger to past traumatic events.
For me it’s a question of intention.
I’m here in the hope of learning more about my condition, meeting people facing similar challenges and hopefully providing some mutual support.
I thought that’s why we’re all here.
Now I might hold an opinion on some random topic that would upset someone here. If I do make such a post i hope I’d have the maturity to say “sorry, I didn’t mean to upset you, let’s move on to another topic”.
Because what could I hope to gain by upsetting a stranger on a forum? a stranger who could potentially help me with my own problems.
And that’s the crux of it for me. Why do some people seek to pointlessly upset other people in a mutual support forum.
I can’t think of a good or honest reason.
no. If everything has to be reduced to the lowest common denominator then culture and rational argument dies. We can not exclude anything and everything that any one might find upsetting. At the end of the day people must be responcable for their own sensativaties. If a thread is getting too heated for your taste you can just click out to home and ignore it.