Published on 12, July, 2020
I could never understand why my mum never told us she loved us never hugged us, was often cruel to us. To this day at 94 years old and being cared for very well by my sisters, she is difficult. She is a good woman but often horrible. We have been kind and caring to her and it has been very difficult. In the 1960's she had a stay in a mental hospital, we were placed in care. She was very anxious. She has been particularly cruel to my brother. She has been very anxious, has poor social skills, and an be so direct it is offensive.
We needed her. Everything is now becoming clearer.
Now i think of it, we had a severely disabled cousin, his sister shows symptoms of autism, lacks social skills, isolation
Do you have an autistic parent? X
I think my late mum was autistic too.
There was something else going on so maybe Schizoaffective Disorder.
She sounds quite similar to your mum.
She never told us she loved us - in fact she told us she hadn't wanted us.
She was a product of the era where women had very little choice in contraception and really wasn't at all suited to being a parent.
I think about her a lot now, mention her quite often I think here on the forum, and am constantly trying to unravel her.
She was a very odd woman indeed.
Coming to this realisation is a good thing for you I think as it gives you a context for understanding her.