Obsessions with people

This is normal - it's an aspect of feeling everything with a deeper intensity than our NT peers. So, it's worth noting most others don't have this same response. 

Autistics and ADHD'rs *tend to feel with a greater intensity / vulnerability due to a different way of sense-perceiving the world as "too real" (as one theory states). I prefer to say it from our perspective, we don't dull our senses the same. So external and internal sensations can be powerful to overwhelming.

There's an advantage to this, such as learning to craft a sensation like taste or smell in order to discern differences - like understanding wine. But identifying feelings which aren't as easy to contain or command, since they can't just be popped into a jar in a controlled setting. Relating with others also has a great deal of unspoken rules in order to build healthy connexions. Learning to respect and create boundaries is important and sometimes this is quite difficult when we're naturally impacted to such an intensity. 

So while how we're impacted isn't something we can necessarily control, what we decide to do or how we decide to act - is. This is partly where being conscientious about having boundaries with others matters, and in situations like this, knowing where friendship becomes a more intimate connexion seems important. I always find respecting an underlying principle useful in situations like these which then makes it a little more simple to know if I'm crossing a line by how I respond - or intentionally don't - as a matter of respect :) 

This is normal - it's an aspect of feeling everything with a deeper intensity than our NT peers. So, it's worth noting most others don't have this same response. 

Autistics and ADHD'rs *tend to feel with a greater intensity / vulnerability due to a different way of sense-perceiving the world as "too real" (as one theory states). I prefer to say it from our perspective, we don't dull our senses the same. So external and internal sensations can be powerful to overwhelming.

There's an advantage to this, such as learning to craft a sensation like taste or smell in order to discern differences - like understanding wine. But identifying feelings which aren't as easy to contain or command, since they can't just be popped into a jar in a controlled setting. Relating with others also has a great deal of unspoken rules in order to build healthy connexions. Learning to respect and create boundaries is important and sometimes this is quite difficult when we're naturally impacted to such an intensity. 

So while how we're impacted isn't something we can necessarily control, what we decide to do or how we decide to act - is. This is partly where being conscientious about having boundaries with others matters, and in situations like this, knowing where friendship becomes a more intimate connexion seems important. I always find respecting an underlying principle useful in situations like these which then makes it a little more simple to know if I'm crossing a line by how I respond - or intentionally don't - as a matter of respect :)