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Mood swings as a late diagnosed adult

this_is_phil
over 1 year ago

Hello everyone,

TL;DR: I'm looking for advice on dealing with my mood swings and outbursts of anger.

I'm hoping for a bit of advice. I've had mood swings a lot throughout my life. I'm not sure if they are tied to my autism or not, but today I had a massive mood swing going from happy to angry and ended up snapping at my wife which, understandably, really upset her. It's been a very long time since I've done this, but several years ago, during a time which I now recognise as me being in burnout and struggling a lot, I had a lot of moments like this.

I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to manage these things. For context, I was trying to make hot chocolate for the family using a velvetiser thing from hotel Chocolat (as a side note I highly recommend these). They use flakes of grated chocolate, but a few weeks ago they were left on top of the air fryer and several of the sachets melted and clumped up. I tried breaking this up before use but some got stuck in the machine which causes the motor to make a horrible sound which makes me freak out because I feel like it's going to break the machine. I got distressed by this, but my wife just said it's fine and to keep it going but I ended up snapping at her and I upset her.

I fully appreciate that I am in the wrong here, but I would appreciate if anyone can suggest anything to help with managing situations like this where things are rapidly going wrong without me getting angry.

Thanks,

Phil

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  • over 1 year ago

    I think there's an independent disorder that's causes mood swings. It's not bipolar since bipolar is much more intense but I forgot the scientific name of it sorry. Actually I think there might be few of them. I guess reading online how others deal with could help. Some have their own pills to stabilise them. Wellz I don't want to scare you but it's an option!. Otherwise I guess it's good to try to learn the early signs of your anger. Anger has many stages and during the early ones, it's still manageable, when it reaches its top, well, then it might be too late. Also, it's good to learn the early signs of the mood swing itself so you could nurture yourself and avoid demanding tasks, long days or maybe people or whatever might overwhelm you when you aren't ready to deal with it. I'll give you applause for trying to not hurt anyone even tho you did because of a special condition and not intentionally. I try to do the same too. Theory is much easier than practice but good luck! 

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  • over 1 year ago

    I think there's an independent disorder that's causes mood swings. It's not bipolar since bipolar is much more intense but I forgot the scientific name of it sorry. Actually I think there might be few of them. I guess reading online how others deal with could help. Some have their own pills to stabilise them. Wellz I don't want to scare you but it's an option!. Otherwise I guess it's good to try to learn the early signs of your anger. Anger has many stages and during the early ones, it's still manageable, when it reaches its top, well, then it might be too late. Also, it's good to learn the early signs of the mood swing itself so you could nurture yourself and avoid demanding tasks, long days or maybe people or whatever might overwhelm you when you aren't ready to deal with it. I'll give you applause for trying to not hurt anyone even tho you did because of a special condition and not intentionally. I try to do the same too. Theory is much easier than practice but good luck! 

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