Published on 12, July, 2020
This topic came up in another thread, and having struggled with the topic myself for about 5 decades, I'd like to see how the rest of you do it.
For me the response to an insult is often confusion. Did I hear that right? Does it mean what I think it means, and if so WhyTF are they insulting me?
AND HOW SHOULD I RESPOND??
Do you see all those nasty question marks? I don't LIKE having to find answers to questions, on the spot, in real time, that's for sure.
In my case I've always seen it as a form of combat, and I really, really, resent having "combat" in any form thrust upon me unexpectedly, so for many years I've not enjoyed that part of life.
Eventually, after much training and dedication I grew to be the "Butterbean" of insult exchangers, which was one way of solving the problem.
How is it for you?
I think you must be talking about face to face comments rather than online?
So, with regard to that, I probably won't realise I've been insulted until afterwards, but if I do realise and I get genuinely annoyed my tongue will run away with me and I will be quite verbally sharp in return.
Usually though it will hit me about 2 hours later, what the person actually meant.
Regarding online, that's different and I'll just calmly respond (usually).
I do like to be logical, calm and not aggressive in my replies, where I can manage it.
I Sperg said:after much training and dedication I grew to be the "Butterbean" of insult exchangers
I don't understand this 'Butterbean' reference.
Please explain.
Thanks.
Butterbean was/is a boxer who caught my eye. He's a bit of a monster...
Thank you for that explanation. I too wondered and my conclusion was that it meant soaking up the insults, as when I was a child you soaked dried butter beans overnight before cooking them.