How do we deal with being insulted?

Cadbury's Caramel is on its way to you......take it easy ol'timer....I've got 4 tear tattoos on my face and plenny-a-p's....Fingers-issa-working for my crew now - so you sleep tight !

[Disambiguation - For any delicate souls, please be reassured that neither myself nor Mr ISperg would be daft enough to publish our intentions to rub each other out......so rest assured, we-issa-joe king.]

G-wagon? Puhleese.  Gotta be a black Rangy Vogue with the tinted windaz. 

And Inapropriate? Does that long word even MEAN "Firm but fair"?

IN fact, Are you taking the mick sunshine?

'Fingers pass me the MP5 and a coupla them magazines, this guy is dissing the porpoises, or sumtin'. He needs to be told..."

Art is a very subjective thing, I know. And the art world is full of Emperor's New Clothes. Did you see that story recircling again right now, about the hungry visitor who ate an exhibit? A banana taped to a wall.

As for the woman who criticised the piece of artwork, well I do see that her core values are rather different to mine, in all sorts of ways. 

Don't respond. Try to live your life and ignore them. You will be happier.

I believe that the course of action you have mooted could conceivably be deemed an incitement and most certainly would, moreover, be deemed inappropriate, against the law and wholly disproportionate to being called a door handle.  I suggest you get cruz'n by in yur G-wagon, before someone here bags you....G.

She missed out the part where you whip out the trusty SMG, load and make ready, then select "auto"...

Although, upon reflection  I suppose that comes under the heading of "actions speak louder than words".

That's a very literary way to express the matter, but it certainly looks like you covered all the basics there.... for sure.  Hello and welcome.  Interesting first post.  Hope you like it here.   Kind regards Number.

Dealing with being insulted is a tricky situation, but it need not be complicated. The first step in addressing an insult is to identify what kind of insult you are dealing with. Is the complaint about your person or about something you did? If the insult is more personal, then feelings of hurt and anger can naturally arise within us. In this case, it is best to take a few deep breaths and take some time away from the situation to process your emotions before reacting.

On the other hand, if the criticism is regarding something you did or an opinion that was given by you, then it can often be beneficial to respond in a calm and collected manner when given such criticism as this allows for communication exchanges that can help facilitate growth in understanding between both parties involved. When responding to criticisms of this nature try using empathetic language that acknowledges how someone might feel due to their perspective without getting into debates over details - instead focus on both parties coming together on common ground so as reduce potential conflict.

At times however none of these will work, where an apology alone may not cut it - in which case provide evidence that demonstrate why you believe your decision/opinion/argument was right rather than wrong as proof points have been shown time again help invalidate arguments revolving around insults issued towards another individual. For example when faced by insulting remarks stating “you don't understand” share experiences which contradict this narrative – perhaps even backing them up with facts or statistics where necessary – demonstrating why there has been confusion rather than complete ignorance on our part.

Finally if all else fails remember actions always speak louder than words; use body language cues such as posture changes , facial expressions etc., during conversations instead of speaking heatedly entirely composed out backlash against another individual’s negative comments. Nonverbal forms of communication objectively also carry much more weight over verbal ones because they demonstrate how one prefers taking part engagingly (and nonviolently) whilst making sure any negative energy does not spill out at inappropriate moments causing further discomforting issues throughout said discussions. At the end day keep looking ahead holding onto hope until better days come around!

there always is some truth in the mean things people say. if not they wouldnt have said it.

same with stereotypes too, stereotypes exist because there is truth in them and a common occurance.

if say i dont have any friends and alot of people say im a ...some type of censored word likely lol ... then there must be truth in that as alot of people would be saying that and youd perhaps have very few friends. but ofcourse a personality is impossible to change and youd just have to accept and embrace who you are even if who you are is percieved as a massive douchebag by the rest of society lol

Your observations and conclusions are very much aligned to my own.  However, I also extend my "searching" to look at myself and have noted (with some considerable shame and regret) that some of the insults do actually tell me quite a bit about myself too.......when you strip away the hateful way in which an insult (by definition) is delivered.  The abrupt, cold and subjective "criticism/insult" is my preferred type in terms of being able to derive some better self knowledge.

[Disambiguation - just to be absolutely clear, I am NOT suggesting that you are wrong in ANYTHING that you have written above, neither in fact nor by omission.  Moreover, I am most certainly not suggesting that there is anything wrong with your art in any way,  I write this merely to inform you that I have learned (with not inconsiderable pain) to accept that some insults are truisms that have been delivered in inappropriate form.]

Spending years brooding, being bitter and twisted? Well I do try to deal with my anger by seeing it from different perspectives. 

Unfortunately if you exhibit art, even if you are not someone who graduated through the elitist system, you can meet some pretty toxic individuals. Bitter at their own lack of success in an unlevel playing field - not difficult to understand - or just in general, jealous. Or just a plain snob, there are plenty of those. One went on full attack for various reasons of her own, but I had to get my work back. Once that was done, I told her to leave me along and stop treating me like a stupid little kid. 

I do now recognise that some kinds of insulting, hurtful behaviour are characteristic of high-functioning alcoholics. They think they are being clever or witty, or want to show their dominance in a group setting.

Other times it is easier to conclude that the behaviour tells more about them, and where they are coming from. That's exactly what I wrote to one big shot, who's written all manner of books and cards, who insulted a piece of artwork I uploaded on a site - that it told me an awful lot about her. Along with a few other things about her general arrogance. I was planning to block her in case she wouldn't leave me alone, but she hasn't bothered me again, luckily. 

I get the feeling that I've been dirtied too. I hated my behaviour, if I ever did it, even if it was in self-defence.

Usually their response is more "you f******* *** I'll bash your head in[Edited by Moderator]." I don't go outside after dark as I can't stay awake, so there's usually enough people around to discourage actual violence, and at this point I don't care. I'm done letting people abuse me every day and pretending to like it. Some people are violent regardless of how nice you are so there's no point.

And no one snaps back with something facile like "It takes one to know one"?

I never get away with doubling down on the nastiness, even if I win the encounter, I still feel dirtied afterwards. 

What's worse is that people seem to give you respect and kudos for being able to "out nasty" other people,.so I'm feeling dirty for what I did and getting applause for it at the same time!

There's owt so strange as folk.

My go to for strangers who insult me in person is "good morning/afternoon, rude old man" or smile and say "well you're a nasty little bully, aren't you?"

I have a pretty thick skin.  I equate an insult to the importance and meaning that person has to my life. If there is none, then I either return the insult or simply laugh and walk away.  Life is too short to allow a-holes to matter.

Thank you for that explanation. I too wondered and my conclusion was that it meant soaking up the insults, as when I was a child you soaked dried butter beans overnight before cooking them.

Various options depending on situation and intent. 1. Blow up which doesn't happen anymore and would do with only 2 certain people in my life (and usully when ive mis interpreted something). 2. It doesnt register till too late or doesn't register at all. 3. With humour which I find is the best way. 4. Letting them know they have cheesed me off (this is a new one....people need to know if they have annoyed me). 5. Letting it go, they might be having a bad day.

I find insult a strange way to describe this response. I don't often feel insulted. Although, it's human nature to be insulted but it doesn't register as this way with me. If you had used "hurt" that would be easier to describe. If you're talking about insult with intent I don't tend to have nasty people in my life.

depends... often people insult me when they have no case or reply against my argument... in that case i often challenge them and point out how by doing that they are conceding the argument as by attacking the person and not the argument they are saying that your argument is valid and they have nothing against it so have to insult you instead or change the topic, meaning they concede defeat... so i dunno, when you get insulted by someone often its a case that you actually won a argument and you need to stay focused on that and not let them sway the topic or make you forget the argument, stay to your point and have them confirm that they have indeed not got anything to say about the argument and they drop out and are reduced to insults 

I am someone who craves honest feedback from people about how they perceive me, my words, actions and behaviours.

I process "insults" in the same way that I process ALL honest feedback from people ie I'm grateful for it!   I wish people would just tell me, directly, whether they like or dislike me in the moment ..... but this very rarely happens.

Insults are little packets of words that are bursting with useful information.  If an "insult" or "threat" is thrown in my direction, it normally helps me to understand what type of other human (or animal) I am ACTUALLY dealing with and/or helps me adjust to tone, flavour, volume, lexicon, posture or subject matter.  All helpful!

Unfortunately, my calm and scholarly reaction to insults and threats generally seem to exacerbate the passions / irritations / anger of the person trying to upset me with the insult / threat.

Ultimately, over the years, I have learned not to engage with petty minded or damaged souls who like to try and dish out insults or threats in my direction.  Whilst this can leave me festering for a sort time (what I would have liked to have retorted with / how I would have so very readily "contained" things if they got physically out of hand etc) Ultimately, I'm not a fan of "yappy" dogs that snap around my ankles - so I just walk on by - ever so slightly wiser.