Published on 12, July, 2020
I’m late Diagnosed Female I started a friendship nearly 2 years ago pretty much solely online as we live in different parts of the UK. He grew up with some of my cousins abroad which is how we came to be in contact and we’ve been exchanging messages back and forth, since then we always check in with each other every week or so, I’m fairly sure he’s Autistic though he never told me he’s autistic he initially had it in his bio but removed it shortly after we added each others socials, so about 3 weeks ago I decided to tell him I’m Autistic because I was hoping we could talk about ish you know (we have had deep conversations on other topics in the past based on mental health so it’s not like we’re not acquainted to these types of conversations) so I slipped it into a conversation we was having and I haven’t heard from him since like nothing at all and I’m so confused does anyone have any advice
UPDATE
Seems Astrid and Kitty where right he did have something happen I’m not sure what he didn’t really reply to anything I had sent previously he just apologised for being absent which makes me think he perhaps isn’t comfortable with his own Autism.
Hello,
I'm not sure I understand why he would stop talking to you because you've confided in him you're Autistic . What difference would it make ? you're still the same person, you'd still talk and communicate the same way. This seems to be an issue on his side of things . Do you know someone that knows him that you can talk too ? maybe they would have more information or he's said something to them .
If he has Social Media has it been recently updated and what kind of activity has taken place there , that might give you some clues. This is what I find very unsettling about people , how they can just throw you to one side and stop talking to you . Personally , the most important person is you and you do have to think of yourself and protect your feelings and emotions.
Excellent observations and advice. I too am baffled by "friends" who just drop you. I had 8 who stopped contacting me while I started battling cancer. True story.
Not to intrude . Are you okay, Kitty ? regarding the Cancer ?
What more could you possibly want, It's more than enough. If someone has a lot of friends , how many of them are true friends . I think you've found the right person and your fur baby.
I have tried to use the internet to make friends , I ended up going down a dark path but I'm really pleased you've made friends there too .
Thanks! Like I said to Ann, the best support I've had is from 5 people I met online through Instagram way before I got cancer. I only have my boyfriend (and cat) present in my life as support. However, with all of them as support, it helps a lot
You're welcome. I saw some of your posts while I've been browsing the different topics and I'm glad you have people around you . I think that is the most important thing is having people around you you're comfortable with .
But you are absolutely right and it applies to any situation. Keeping busy and trying to be positive . I wish you the best
You're not intruding at all - I appreciate you asking. I had surgery and radiation therapy and now I'm on a cancer drug for a total of five years, with unpleasant side effects. Hopefully, it won't come back or be found elsewhere in the body. Now I know what they mean by "living with cancer" - it doesn't mean I'm cured since it can come back at any time. All I can do is keep busy and hope for the best. Thanks again for asking me.