Socialising hangover

I was out yesterday with a person whom I met for the second time in my life. We watched a documentary in cinema, called The Cathedral I'd recommend it, and chatted afterwards for 2 hours in what seemed to me a very noisy place, which is a regular bar without any loud music. Sometimes the noise seemed unbareable and sometimes I was focused on the discussion so I didn't notice it much. I had one beer and didn't find our discussions very interesting, they were just ok. Maybe because it's a new person to me and I'm not sure how meaningful, personal discussions can be. I tried my best not to mask, which means I didn't put lot of effort to smile at whatever is said to me or try hard to seem engaged, interested and come up with topics. I was just trying to do what makes sense to me. This is all new to me..

Today, It's like I have a hangover. I can't handle listening to music while working, even tho I usually do. I don't want to socialise with others. I feel like someone who can't even smell alcohol after a long night of drinking. I am drained and slightly out of energy. Like a down mood. I am even bit tired to work as well but I still can handle it.

I'm very new to the realisation that I probably am on the spectrum. I'm very new to unmasking and realising all thess things while and after socialising in public spaces. I have planned meeting with a friend tomorrow and I'm not sure if I can do it! sorry if you find this story boring or without any interesting content, but it would mean a lot if someone can relate to it, maybe tell me about how you experience these situations or give me some info so I can research more and maybe understand my needs better.

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  • I can completely relate. I've had quite a heavy week and I'm really feeling the effects today.

    I find it helpful to be aware of the situations that cause you to feel drained or that you know will take a fair chunk of energy and plan to have some 'recovery' time afterwards or the next day so that you can recharge. It can take time to figure out what these are so be kind to yourself and try to be aware of how things are affecting you, I find writing them down helps.

  • Makes sense. This is all new to me and it's a great point to notice what exactly was the most draining thing.

    Thank you 

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