Published on 12, July, 2020
Just interested if anyone else has met a person in adult life who bullied them at school.
My father ran a small coach business, the yard had an office and occasionally people would book a coach in person. One day I was on my own in the yard, I would have been about 35 then. One of the school bullies turned up to book a coach. He was one of the worst ones, anyway he greeted me like an old friend, it shocked me and I was like a rabbit in the headlights. He really was after ‘mates rates’, I really didn’t know how to deal with him, had he forgotten or thought it was just a bit of fun, I couldn’t work it out, I started to wonder, did the years of abuse actually happen? But they are too vivid, they did happen. Another thought was, he’s pushing me for a cheap price, is he trying to bully me again. I so wanted to ask him why he did it but couldn’t. My father luckily came back to the yard and dealt with his enquiry. Has anything similar happened to anyone else?
I've been in an awkward situation for many years with regard to this one.
So, one of my 2 friends is a senior school friend.
She likes to meet up occasionally, for a meal, with a group she was particularly friendly with at school.
She always asks me to come and really doesn't like to be without me, so out of obligation, I go.
I've spent many years saying 'yes' to the friend when really I want to say 'no'. (Story of my life)..
However, one of these women was part of a group who bullied me from the age of 12 to 16+ both verbally and physically.
I'm not sure if she remembers either but I remember only too well.
In a group of around 5 people I manage to not speak to her much, but it does disturb me.
In fact, just writing this has made me feel stressed, 46 years later.
I feel for you as I know you had very similar experiences to me in school.
Mine was a girls' school in a very poor area of Portsmouth.
I stood out there. Girls can be very vicious.
Sorry you went through this, to some degree one of them is still in your life, she must remember what she did otherwise she would reminisce about school. It would be nice at the end of a meal, in front of everyone else, to ask why she bullied you so much. I think she would squirm then.