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Moving houses

NAS81271
over 2 years ago

Hello everyone, 

My name is Emily and I’m really struggling with moving houses. I’m 21 years old and I still live with my parents and as of yesterday they bought a new house. This was just sprung on me out of nowhere and now they are trying to sell my childhood home that I have lived in since I was born. I really want to be happy for them but deep down I’m really not, I really struggle with change and letting go of things and I really don’t know how to cope and let go (even though I don’t want to). Everyone keeps telling me it’s going to be fine and that’s it’s a new adventure but to me it feels like the world crashing down on me and that advice only makes me stress more.

My life feels like it’s flipped upside down… I just recently got a new job that I’ve been extremely stressed about and now with the stress of moving I’m really having a tough time. Does anyone have any similar experiences? or ways of coping with this? it would be really helpful to hear.

thank you in advance! 

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  • over 2 years ago

    Hi Emily, this sounds like a big transition, especially while you're trying to settle into a new job! It's totally natural for you to feel upset and disoriented. I think that's important to recognise first before trying to see the bright side. You're likely experiencing a kind of grief. It'll take time to process the loss of your childhood safe space and that's ok. Pease be patient with yourself. 

    I've moved many times and still struggle with the upheaval of it all. One thing that I do is identify some things that won't change - even something as simple as a snack that I can get reliably, a book that I love, music that helps me feel calm, a friend or family member that I can meet with.

    I also like to find something I can take control of. Even though you don't want to move, it might be helpful to learn about the moving process. This doesn't have to be a fun process, just one you can navigate. 

    The move might be chaotic - it might help if you can create a temporary space in your home or room that you can retreat to when feeling overwhelmed. Even if it's just a corner that everyone knows not to change until absolutely necessary and only after discussing with you. In this space, have something that helps soothe sensory overload.

    I hope something in this helps. All the best to you!

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  • over 2 years ago

    Hi Emily, this sounds like a big transition, especially while you're trying to settle into a new job! It's totally natural for you to feel upset and disoriented. I think that's important to recognise first before trying to see the bright side. You're likely experiencing a kind of grief. It'll take time to process the loss of your childhood safe space and that's ok. Pease be patient with yourself. 

    I've moved many times and still struggle with the upheaval of it all. One thing that I do is identify some things that won't change - even something as simple as a snack that I can get reliably, a book that I love, music that helps me feel calm, a friend or family member that I can meet with.

    I also like to find something I can take control of. Even though you don't want to move, it might be helpful to learn about the moving process. This doesn't have to be a fun process, just one you can navigate. 

    The move might be chaotic - it might help if you can create a temporary space in your home or room that you can retreat to when feeling overwhelmed. Even if it's just a corner that everyone knows not to change until absolutely necessary and only after discussing with you. In this space, have something that helps soothe sensory overload.

    I hope something in this helps. All the best to you!

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